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I am a parent and I was just thinking that you often don't know exactly what your kids are doing, while you might think otherwise. Nothing more to my points, than that.
If the shoe doesn't fit (re: your awareness), don't wear it. Simple stuff.
I am a parent and I was just thinking that you often don't know exactly what your kids are doing, while you might think otherwise. Nothing more to my points, than that.
If the shoe doesn't fit (re: your awareness), don't wear it. Simple stuff.
It isn't about me but rather your insistence that parents are in denial. Parents are not in denial just because partying and sex are not mentioned in their responses. It sounds like you think you are the best parent in the world and everyone else is in denial. Get down off your pedestal.
It isn't about me but rather your insistence that parents are in denial. Parents are not in denial just because partying and sex are not mentioned in their responses. It sounds like you think you are the best parent in the world and everyone else is in denial. Get down off your pedestal.
omg. How could you possibly know that "parents are not in denial."
Why do you care what a person you don't know thinks? It's just ridiculous.
Funny that you are ordering a stranger around.
Have a nice day. I am sick of this subject. Every last morsel has been squeezed out of it.
It's amazing that all of the parents responding have stellar teens who are doing nothing but working and volunteering.
No drinking/drugging/having sex.
I wonder whose kids are doing that?
Most kids lose their virginity at 16, I think, so . . . interesting!
this is what you said.
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Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness
It is complex.
I don't think parents (even if SAH) can every REALLY know everything their kids are doing. My mom was SAH, and suffice it to say she did not have a clue (mainly because she had to sleep, and I did not - and I also lied a lot and told her what she wanted to hear).
But let's just say that there are kids who are not experimenting with anything - I think that is a low percentage, but I have no numbers.
Do you ever watch the teen movies with the kids kissing up to their parents, then sneaking out the window?
I think a lot of parents are either busy and/or in denial. And I do understand why.
I thought I knew what my kids were doing, but turns out I did not.
Anyway, time will tell.
I think it is normal for teens to want freedom and to want to experiment and have fun.
Because you sneaked around and lied to your parents doesn't mean the kids of the posters here are. Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. In any case, would you really expect to get an answer that included information about drugs and sex in a post like this? I can image in it: "My 16 year old has a part time job at a summer camp. When he's not working or in summer school, he smokes pot with his friends or has sex with his girlfriend." Really?
I don't have teens yet, but when mine become teenagers I expect them to have jobs during the summer. Once they are young adults, I expect they will be moved out of the house and working.
No - it's cool that someone's kids are doing great things - it just might not be typical or the full picture.
It never occurred to me that summer jobs (paid or unpaid) and camps automatically fell under the umbrella of "doing great things". It is pretty typical in my experience, both as a teen and as a parent. Maybe you did not have those expectations growing up or for your children but most people I know expect something productive from their teens and young adult children once they get to a certain age.
I don't have teens yet, but when mine become teenagers I expect them to have jobs during the summer. Once they are young adults, I expect they will be moved out of the house and working.
Ah yes... I predict reality will set in in a few years. 13 year olds can't legally work, and most places won't hire anyone younger than 16. 18-19? they may be away at college, but most come home for that first summer. If they don't go to college, but are working, I doubt they'd make enough to move out. Maybe though. You can keep hoping.
I don't have teens yet, but when mine become teenagers I expect them to have jobs during the summer. Once they are young adults, I expect they will be moved out of the house and working.
We don't expect our young adults to move out if they are in college.
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