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Old 07-16-2018, 06:29 AM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Tell him no biting, out him down. He is just testing out what is acceptable. He will understand you. Ouch, no biting. Is he/she going through teething? I had some teething things that got stored in the freezer that seemed to give some relief. Hand him/her one of those and say it you want to bite you can bite on one of these. A wet/damp washcloth also works well for something to teeth on. I sometimes wrapped a ice cube in one and tied it up in one with a rubber band.

My son would be a crazy manic if he was late for a nap and would occasionally bite then. Maybe biting is around nap or bed to time. Our lives for a while revolved around his nap times for a few years.

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Old 07-16-2018, 06:41 AM
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All toddlers bite. It seems like frustration at not being able to communicate. What OP is doing is fine, and the baby will eventually get past it. Children really want to please us.a
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Old 07-16-2018, 08:07 AM
 
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All toddlers bite. It seems like frustration at not being able to communicate. What OP is doing is fine, and the baby will eventually get past it. Children really want to please us.a
That's not true.

I tried to find statistics on the internet, but all I could come up with was about 1/3 of kids will be bitten when they are toddlers, and how to deal with a biting toddler including how to deal with other parents and daycare if you have a biting toddler. And basically take heart parents of biting toddlers, they will out grow it and it's not a symptom of future serious aggressive behavior. So in that case, you're right - they will outgrow it.

But a toddler who bites another child at daycare, more than once, is very likely to be asked to leave.

My 3, who were not saints, never bit anyone.
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Old 07-16-2018, 08:26 AM
 
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My son will be one next week. Like most babies, he bites things when he's teething or hungry. In the last month or so, he's started being mobile enough to climb on me or the furniture, and he uses his teeth to gain purchase in addition to his hands. He will also bite at my shoulder if I'm holding him.

My ideal response is an "Ouch!" followed by a firm "No biting, biting hurts Mama" and I set him down where he can't reach me for a minute, which of course makes him angry. Unfortunately, because it really does hurt *a lot* my response is not always as calm and consistent as I want it to be. I also try to redirect him to something he can chew on, but usually he just throws it because he's upset. Interestingly, this is the approach I usrd to get him to stop biting when nursing, and for that purpose it worked pretty well.

Have any of you dealt with this? Any ideas? I really want to curb this behaviour early before he ends up biting someone else. Thanks!
I think what you are doing is perfect. Has it not worked after 3-4 times?
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Old 07-16-2018, 12:35 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I tell you what happened with my daughter when she was going through a biting stage , she bit her older brother and he got mad about it and he bit her too . That did not faze her she laughed at him which made him madder LOL . However she thought it would be a good idea to bite my dog the shepherd mix I had at the time . He was an awesome dog . He turned around and bit her back and she never ever bit anyone again . It may sound strange but I was so grateful for that dog teaching her a lesson . Now as for daycare and my sister and I went round and round about this . Her son bit another child at day care and the teacher sent a note home with the older sister who promptly told her mother that mrs davis says if john lee does not stop biting other kids he will have to leave day care . My sister told her daughter to tell mrs davis that she had better be careful because my sister would go up to the day care and bite her if she did not stop picking on john lee . I could not believe it ., I would be ticked too if some kid in day care bit my kid to draw blood . You have to stop that behavior before he or she goes to day care . I told my sister she was lucky no other parent was suing her .
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Old 07-16-2018, 12:58 PM
 
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Thank you, everyone. I tried making my "No" more angry-sounding yesterday evening but all it accomplished was making the baby laugh at me and getting my husband upset at me for yelling.

It's definitely worst when he's tired or hungry and is exacerbated by the fact that he is cutting two more teeth right now. I know he's just playing and testing limits and doesn't understand that he's hurting me. At least he won't be going to daycare so I don't have to worry about that! Thanks for the suggestions and reassurance!
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Old 07-16-2018, 02:29 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Thank you, everyone. I tried making my "No" more angry-sounding yesterday evening but all it accomplished was making the baby laugh at me and getting my husband upset at me for yelling.

It's definitely worst when he's tired or hungry and is exacerbated by the fact that he is cutting two more teeth right now. I know he's just playing and testing limits and doesn't understand that he's hurting me. At least he won't be going to daycare so I don't have to worry about that! Thanks for the suggestions and reassurance!
When they're teething, sometimes they'll bite down hard on things for pain relief. That's not quite the same as when they bite out of frustration. You should get some of the teethers that go in the fridge, and give him those to bite on instead.
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Old 07-16-2018, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Watervliet, NY
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It's fine to just say NO in a loud voice. You don't need to offer an explanation of why he can't do something. When he's older, offering explanations makes sense, but for now, it makes you less effective. It's kind of a pet peeve of mine, my sister does it and while she's still explaining why you don't do one bad behavior, the kid has moved on to the next bad behavior which she then has to explain why he can't do, and so on. She follows him around from one mishap to the next, lecturing in a sugary sweet voice "it's wrong to jump on the furniture when the furniture doesn't belong to us, it's wrong to run around screaming because it might be disturbing to some people" and so on. It's obvious he's not hearing any of what she's saying, and a good loud "no" stops him in his tracks. As a bonus, he usually sits down and looks up at me for a while because he's not used to hearing that word at that volume.

My husband used the third person for so long that my kids started covering their hands with their ears and saying "Not the creepy third person again, Dad!" I assumed he was doing it because he has trouble expressing his feelings.
"Because I said so and I'm the adult" worked very well in our house when I was growing up.
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Old 07-16-2018, 05:12 PM
 
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My daughter took up biting around 18 months and other children were her typical targets. It wasn't teething - it was (as others have said) frustration. We would say "No biting! Use your words".

After a few corrections she started saying "I bite you" before the chomp!

The whole phase passed pretty quickly though. Just be consistent, be direct and use as few words as possible!
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Old 07-16-2018, 05:24 PM
 
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All toddlers bite. It seems like frustration at not being able to communicate. What OP is doing is fine, and the baby will eventually get past it. Children really want to please us.a
This. Oldest grandson was a biter. I babysat him every afternoon at DD's business, and he would bite me on the leg out of anger when I stopped him from pulling merchandise off the lower shelves. I'd be wearing shorts, and the teeth marks would be visible. I'd yell in pain and point at the marks. DD would tell him, "You hurt Nanny, go give her aye aye." He'd lay his head against me, and I knew he was sorry. He wasn't mean spirited, it was just frustration out of being prevented from wrecking the shelves, his favorite game. I'd redirect him with toys, and he eventually stopped.
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