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Old 08-12-2018, 11:27 PM
 
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my 21 years daughter is with her bf . she never introduce him with us , we know her ex bf . found out he has a son and has cheated on her many times. We have always told her we don't have problem with any of her decision just be safe.

she used to tell me she wants to go dental school. bought her DAT book 3 months before . We have been paying her school so far she has 1 more year in college .We paid her car . but now she left her car , cellphone went to bf and told she got kicked out we never had argue home. also she sent us fake DAT score 3 weeks before she left . so she's been lying a lot .

called her bf he's not saying any thing . Her friends are saying she needs space . its been 2 months . I have no problem her with bf but at least she talked to us. she used to tell me we do a lot for her she loves coming home but now all these

How do i make her talk to me . I only have one child . Its so heart breaking
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Old 08-12-2018, 11:30 PM
 
Location: Rome, Georgia
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my 21 years daughter is with her bf . she never introduce him with us , we know her ex bf . found out he has a son and has cheated on her many times. We have always told her we don't have problem with any of her decision just be safe.

she used to tell me she wants to go dental school. bought her DAT book 3 months before . We have been paying her school so far she has 1 more year in college .We paid her car . but now she left her car , cellphone went to bf and told she got kicked out we never had argue home. also she sent us fake DAT score 3 weeks before she left . so she's been lying a lot .

called her bf he's not saying any thing . Her friends are saying she needs space . its been 2 months . I have no problem her with bf but at least she talked to us. she used to tell me we do a lot for her she loves coming home but now all these

How do i make her talk to me . I only have one child . Its so heart breaking
Always be honest, never manipulate. Tell her exactly what you feel, not what you think might make her do what you want her to do.
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Old 08-12-2018, 11:43 PM
 
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she left her phone home , she blocked from all the social media . We have been emailing but no response . we use to text everyday now been 2 months so hard not to talk to her

she has never worked only bf works at 24 hour fitness center. not sure if they have money for 2 of them and she took both our dogs
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Old 08-13-2018, 01:21 AM
 
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You can’t make her talk to you and the more you try, to plead the more it will backfire and she will feel hounded. It’s hard but you must try to give her space. Just let her know you love her and you are there is she needs you, but back off.

Don’t put her boyfriend on the spot and call him. That’s viewed as interfering.
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Old 08-13-2018, 02:34 AM
 
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I would stop paying for her lifestyle immediately and expect better communication from both sides.
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Old 08-13-2018, 04:33 AM
 
Location: Rust Belt, OH
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Agree with Elyn02.

If your daughter wants to cut you off, then you return the favor and cut off her financial support.

She will call in a hurry.

Other than that, I don't see there is much you can do. She is an adult now and free to make her own choices, good or bad.

Last edited by OHNot4Me; 08-13-2018 at 04:46 AM..
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Old 08-13-2018, 12:02 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Having been that 21 year old girl I agree with what most everyone has said above. You need to give her space to let her make her own mistakes and decisions. Stop supporting her completely. Let her know she is always welcome in your home and you love her unconditionally.

Frankly, I am concerned she is in an abusive relationship. If she is cutting you off, that is a sign.
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