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Saw an Instagram post about yes her children are all her and her husbands even if both parents have brown eyes and brown hair and all 3 children are blue eyed and 2 with blond hair.
Do people really have so little respect or tact to ask someone if their children are "theirs" or if they have the same parents or any variation of that?
It happened a few times with my wife. I'm asian and my wife is white. We have three children and they run the entire gamut.... one looks asian, one mix, one looks white.
It really upsets her when a complete stranger would walk up and ask if one, two, or all of them are adopted. To the point that she ended up regretting that she kept her maiden name.
It happened a few times with my wife. I'm asian and my wife is white. We have three children and they run the entire gamut.... one looks asian, one mix, one looks white.
It really upsets her when a complete stranger would walk up and ask if one, two, or all of them are adopted. To the point that she ended up regretting that she kept her maiden name.
How dare people presume the right to speak to people that way. That's rude and inconsiderate and awful
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I have a friend who is white, and her husband is white, and they adopted a hispanic child together. Several times, in the baby's early childhood, people in the public who they DID NOT KNOW, pulled the man aside and said you know, that can't be your child.
Absolutely amazing, the brazen rudeness and cluelessness of these people!!!
My husband is Hispanic and I'm white. When we had our first baby, my FIL's neighbors made a huge deal about how she was too white to be his child. When we had our second baby, several of my neighbors asked me if my kids had different fathers, because my oldest has her dad's olive complexion and very dark eyes and hair, and my youngest is pale with freckles like me.
I was asked quite a few times and it always shocked me, with one woman responding ,in front of my 5 year old daughter, that she thought my daughter was adopted. It was very upsetting for my daughter.
It happened a few times with my wife. I'm asian and my wife is white. We have three children and they run the entire gamut.... one looks asian, one mix, one looks white.
It really upsets her when a complete stranger would walk up and ask if one, two, or all of them are adopted. To the point that she ended up regretting that she kept her maiden name.
I'm also in an interracial marriage and fully expect this to happen once we have kiddos. I'm going to start thinking up some good comebacks now. FWIW, I don't think the maiden name would matter much to strangers on the street though.
Recessive traits like blonde hair and blue eyes can be carried by parents but not expressed, yet show up in their children. Eye, face shape and skin color can run the full spectrum of possibilities.
The only issue is ignorance of the person asking.
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