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Do you have kids? My son is four and has grown out of naps. For me if he's talking to himself in a low voice or whisper then I don't think I need to make him feel like he is doing something wrong or trying to correct that. I can tell him to be silent, not move, or get up during 2 hour naps, but he is a 4 year old, active, child. What is the expectation here?? Does that mean he is misbehaving?? The school has set aside 2 hours for kids to nap and ones his age most of them do not fall asleep. They have cameras where we can log in and watch. They play music in the class to drown out some of the background noise.
I have three sons. I've been through all this and more.
If they're setting aside 2 hours for naps, then you need a new day care.
You could tell him you think it's a silly system and buy him some stickers yourself if you want to. Maybe it's better for him not to care so much about it, you can teach him that and will serve him well in life.
I disagreed occasionally with whatever was going on in my kids classrooms and let them know that just because someone is a teacher doesn't mean they can't be wrong about things sometimes. Then I told them what the right thing was, according to me
I have three sons. I've been through all this and more.
If they're setting aside 2 hours for naps, then you need a new day care.
Nap times are mandated. I doubt that would be any different at a different center. The problem isn't the nap. The problem is rewarding kids who still nap and penalizing kids who don't.
I would discuss the policy with the day care director, OP, and then call around to see if there are day cares that have a "quiet time" option instead of dead-silent nap time.
I would discuss the policy with the day care director, OP, and then call around to see if there are day cares that have a "quiet time" option instead of dead-silent nap time.
Can't hurt to ask, I guess, but the rules would be the same throughout the state.
The problem with their system, is that they are awarding stars - which is a reward for good behavior - BUT THEN they are negating the good behavior that was displayed by insisting the child has to have more than eight to get a measly sticker!
That would be so confusing to a child. They might think: "I was good eight times - I got eight stars, but then I must have been bad because I didn't get a prize."
Very illogical.
If you can put him in a Waldorf or Montessori school or something like that - at least a FUN day care, that would be preferable.
I would be so upset if I saw my child crying in the middle of the room with no one comforting him!
Terrible! We're the teachers just fine with that? They're traumatizing him and teaching him really twisted values (not sure what, but something weird from the sheer lack of logic).
If he was noisy or distracting while other kids were napping, yes.
IMO their reward system is suboptimal in several ways, but your reaction wasn't better. You sent a message that moping/whining gets you what you want regardless of whether you earned it.
Better to send him to a preschool that's more closely aligned with your own parenting approach than to undermine an alternative approach.
You could tell him you think it's a silly system and buy him some stickers yourself if you want to. Maybe it's better for him not to care so much about it, you can teach him that and will serve him well in life.
I disagreed occasionally with whatever was going on in my kids classrooms and let them know that just because someone is a teacher doesn't mean they can't be wrong about things sometimes. Then I told them what the right thing was, according to me
I like this idea. Once I speak with the director, I'll decide if I go in this direction.
The problem with their system, is that they are awarding stars - which is a reward for good behavior - BUT THEN they are negating the good behavior that was displayed by insisting the child has to have more than eight to get a measly sticker!
That would be so confusing to a child. They might think: "I was good eight times - I got eight stars, but then I must have been bad because I didn't get a prize."
Very illogical.
If you can put him in a Waldorf or Montessori school or something like that - at least a FUN day care, that would be preferable.
I would be so upset if I saw my child crying in the middle of the room with no one comforting him!
Terrible! We're the teachers just fine with that? They're traumatizing him and teaching him really twisted values (not sure what, but something weird from the sheer lack of logic).
yes I think you and the day care director need to sit down and talk about this and if you get no results then you should look for another day care and interview them thoroughly and I mean intensely . Humiliation does not teach kids anything but how to hate some things and people .
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