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No, I never had a kid like that and he sounds exceptional (in a very good way).
The authoritarian "We're the parents" approach probably won't work. You may need to let him make some of his own mistakes and suffer the consequences of bad behavior. Why did he "cuss out his friend's Dad"? And is he still welcome there? How did his friend react? I'm thinking he's smarter than 99% of the population, knows it, but needs some lessons in the School of Hard Knocks. Your job is to protect him from the ones that might be fatal or leave a police record but it doesn't sound like he's headed that way.
I'm surprised it hasn't been addressed that at 15, he owns nothing . Nada. It's simply not his. Go read the laws.
With that said. Own your sons' actions and have a table talk. Giving him the opportunity to justify his less then adult decisions. Seriously...his rebellion is all teen.
I'd worry your son would deem.himself so adult like that he'd buy guns and think nothing of ridding his adversaries who don't support his antics...
My son is 15 years old and ever since he was 10 he has been getting $60 into his checking account from my husband. He started stock trading last year and is very successful but him and his money have become a problem lately. We can no longer punish him because if we take his phone he will buy a new one from online with his money (he has $20,000). For his 15th birthday we bought him a new car and when he turns 16 he will be able to drive his car anywhere and we cant stop him, he even bought a wheel lock and he has the keys in his safe. Last week we took away his laptop because he cussed out his friends dad and he had another laptop sent to the Amazon Locker at the Whole Foods next to our house and he keeps it in his safe. We are worried he we cant stop him. Even if we closed his bank account and brokerage account he still has 4000 dollars in his safe. Has anyone's kids ever been like this?
What?!
Good Lord...YOU are the adult, HE is the child (and make no mistake, a 16-year-old is a CHILD). If you think you can't stop him for going wherever he wants at age 16, then the problem is you, not him. And his father is utterly wrong to give him a $60/week allowance starting at AGE 10!
This is why you have to be a parent, not a friend, to your children. If you've never pulled rank on him before and treated him like the kid that he is, don't expect him to listen now. FFS
My son is 15 years old and ever since he was 10 he has been getting $60 into his checking account from my husband. He started stock trading last year and is very successful but him and his money have become a problem lately. We can no longer punish him because if we take his phone he will buy a new one from online with his money (he has $20,000). For his 15th birthday we bought him a new car and when he turns 16 he will be able to drive his car anywhere and we cant stop him, he even bought a wheel lock and he has the keys in his safe. Last week we took away his laptop because he cussed out his friends dad and he had another laptop sent to the Amazon Locker at the Whole Foods next to our house and he keeps it in his safe. We are worried he we cant stop him. Even if we closed his bank account and brokerage account he still has 4000 dollars in his safe. Has anyone's kids ever been like this?
Okay so you gave him $60 a week from age 10 to age 15 +.
$60 X 52 (weeks per year) = $3,120.
$3,120 X 5 (years) = $15,600. He actually is older than 15, so you have given him more.
$15,600 - $20,000 (the amount he has now, assuming you didn't round up) = $4,400.
BTW, He isn't all that successful in trading. This is a normal amount in the current market.
Stop giving him money. Cancel his credit cards. Cancel his phone contract. Cancel his car insurance. Transfer the car title into your name. Tell him to pay for his own college education.
Okay so you gave him $60 a week from age 10 to age 15 +.
$60 X 52 (weeks per year) = $3,120.
$3,120 X 5 (years) = $15,600. He actually is older than 15, so you have given him more.
$15,600 - $20,000 (the amount he has now, assuming you didn't round up) = $4,400.
BTW, He isn't all that successful in trading. This is a normal amount in the current market.
Stop giving him money. Cancel his credit cards. Cancel his phone contract. Cancel his car insurance. Transfer the car title into your name. Tell him to pay for his own college education.
Congrats, you created a monster.
All this. By you allowing him to do what he wants, he is controlling you. He is having the say & the control not you.
My dad used to always say this to me growing up: "these are your things, but they are in MY house." even if I bought them myself. I was a minor and under his roof, I didn't own crap.
Next we're going to hear that this kid kicked you out of your house.
Grow a pair.
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