Was saving kids' toys for them but they are gone - should I replace them? (allowance, baby)
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I think it depends on the items. My mom tossed my barbies from when I was a kid. I took very good care of them and they were in mint condition. Now on EBAY, they costs hundreds of dollars. She also seems to have tossed my rock collection which I loved. So yeah, I would save the stuff that isn't replaceable. Now most of the kids toys break because they are cheap crap made in China.
I'm curious as to how an entire collection--several, actually--of toys and books could mysteriously get lost. I find this story hard to believe, unless, OP, you mean that the kids, themselves, lost their own stuff through the course of their childhood.
In any case, my experience and observation is, that most parents throw all that stuff away, unless there's an obvious favorite among the stuffed animals, or something. In which case, there'd be no point in replacing it, because as someone else pointed out, it wouldn't be THE cuddly critter the kids grew up with and loved.
I think it depends on the items. My mom tossed my barbies from when I was a kid. I took very good care of them and they were in mint condition. Now on EBAY, they costs hundreds of dollars. She also seems to have tossed my rock collection which I loved. So yeah, I would save the stuff that isn't replaceable. Now most of the kids toys break because they are cheap crap made in China.
This post begs the question: why don't young adult take what they want to save when they move out? How long do they expect parents to store their stuff?
I know my brothers were horrified that my parents tossed the Lionel trains when they downsized and moved south, but none of them gave the trains a thought until years later when they became collectable.
This post begs the question: why don't young adult take what they want to save when they move out? How long do they expect parents to store their stuff?
I know my brothers were horrified that my parents tossed the Lionel trains when they downsized and moved south, but none of them gave the trains a thought until years later when they became collectable.
Which begs the question of why the parents didn't let the kids know they were downsizing and if they wanted any of the stuff to come get it?
Which begs the question of why the parents didn't let the kids know they were downsizing and if they wanted any of the stuff to come get it?
I can't say I know any parents who downsized without their kids being aware of it. How long exactly are we supposed to store the items they left behind? As I said, I have lots of their childhood toys, and books here, but I'm not saving them for my sons who have shown no inclination to come get them , I'm saving them for future grandchildren. At this point, anything in my house is mine to do with what I want.
Thanks for the replies so far. To answer a few questions, yes, the kids know these things were lost. It's kind of a complicated story, but they were in my mother's house who has dementia and I had to move her quickly out of a large house. But she had already began giving things away in the garage which included the toys. I was lucky enough to get photos and videos, though. To answer another post, no nothing that was handmade of course, just sentimental favorites is all I would get.
I have asked the kids and they say they understand. Their concern was more for their grandmother and how we have had to figure out a new normal in taking care of her. She has lived with us since they were born. But i think in the long run they would still like something from their childhood. I won't go all out, though. I'll probably just pick up a thing or two if I see it and the price is reasonable.
Thanks for the replies so far. To answer a few questions, yes, the kids know these things were lost. It's kind of a complicated story, but they were in my mother's house who has dementia and I had to move her quickly out of a large house. But she had already began giving things away in the garage which included the toys. I was lucky enough to get photos and videos, though. To answer another post, no nothing that was handmade of course, just sentimental favorites is all I would get.
I have asked the kids and they say they understand. Their concern was more for their grandmother and how we have had to figure out a new normal in taking care of her. She has lived with us since they were born. But i think in the long run they would still like something from their childhood. I won't go all out, though. I'll probably just pick up a thing or two if I see it and the price is reasonable.
based on your response to my question about whether they know, the bolded is exactly what I would have said too. Esp. if they had a particular favorite, I might try to replace that if possible, and otherwise, let it go.
And very sorry about your mom, I know how tough being a caregiver for someone with dementia can be.
I can't say I know any parents who downsized without their kids being aware of it. How long exactly are we supposed to store the items they left behind? As I said, I have lots of their childhood toys, and books here, but I'm not saving them for my sons who have shown no inclination to come get them , I'm saving them for future grandchildren. At this point, anything in my house is mine to do with what I want.
Well, didn't you say your parents dumped your brothers' trains and they were horrified? Was there no communication? There seems to be a disconnect here.
Well, I didn’t save their toys and I’m not interested in replacing the Millennium Falcon or Star Wars characters. Or their Legos.
I imagine the OP’s kids have less sentimentality about their old toys that the OP does.
Probably kid dependent. My grown daughter and I were out shopping a TJMaxx one day where she spotted an Eric Carle book that came with a plush caterpillar. Guess what she asked me to put under the Christmas tree for her that year.
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She also seems to have tossed my rock collection which I loved. So yeah, I would save the stuff that isn't replaceable. Now most of the kids toys break because they are cheap crap made in China.
