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Old 12-29-2019, 11:23 PM
 
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No 12 year old in my house was allowed to have a boyfriend....especially a horny one.

THAT is the reason I searched for the word DATING in this forum. What other parents think about their 12 yr "dating". 12 years old is too young to be dating IMO. Glad you agree.
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Old 12-29-2019, 11:27 PM
 
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I'm in the US. Born and raised. Several generations. Still no reason for a 12 year old to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. How is it appropriate for a 12 year old to talk about being horny with their 12 year old boy/girl friend? How exactly is a 12 year old equipped to handle being "in love" and all the emotional baggage that goes with it? There are adults who can't even handle that. Funny, when I was getting my degree in Early Childhood Development (something I'm guessing you don't have), I was taught the the brain of a 12 year old is just flat out not developed enough for these things.

Methinks the Texas Lawyer who seems to not have a problem w 12 year olds "dating" prolly doesn't have a 12 year daughter - prolly DOES have a 12 years old son.
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Old 12-29-2019, 11:28 PM
 
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Same here BostonMike. I remember pregnant girls in junior high. It happens.

Fine. But not in MY house.
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Old Yesterday, 10:35 PM
 
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Methinks the Texas Lawyer who seems to not have a problem w 12 year olds "dating" prolly doesn't have a 12 year daughter - prolly DOES have a 12 years old son.
You're actually wrong.

Even with daughters, going to the mall with a guy is perfectly fine. I think it says a lot about how you are raising your children. There's a difference between going to the mall or pairing up in a group of friends at the bowling alley vs letting them sleep in the same bedroom. I think you are treating the 12 year old like a 6 year old. Children grow, and as a parent, you need to learn to grow with them.
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Old Today, 07:38 PM
 
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Had it been one of my daughters seeing a boy who acted like this (even at 16), I can picture DH (their dad) having a little "talk" with him. He had two younger sisters who became pregnant at 16. Their parents were uber religious, and refused to acknowledge the danger signs. Their attitude was, "we taught you right from wrong, we took you to church...not our fault," They couldn't even talk to their mother about sex. At least my girls were open with me (though I know for a fact they wanted nothing to do with it in their teen years).

As it stands, I agree with most of the other posters...at 12, my girls were not allowed to have boyfriends. But neither were interested in boys until they were older (late bloomers, I guess).

It's never too early to instill responsibility, though...in boys OR girls. My six-year-old grandson had an unexpected conversation with his mom (my oldest DD) the other day...asking if she wanted to be a "Nanny" (what he calls me) when HE had a baby. Just out of the blue, and it floored her.

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