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Old 07-14-2019, 02:48 AM
 
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I just saw an "oops" live video from my 12 yo daughters "boyfriend" he was telling the girl her was facetiming he loved her. Also that he was horny. It's my girls first boyfriend and I know I have to tell her but she will be heartbroken. I asked him if he realized his "girlfriends" mom just watched his enire convo with another girl live on ig and he said no, removed it and apologized. he was sorry and i rreponded " id be sorry too" Any advice will help
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Old 07-14-2019, 08:01 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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If I were you, I’d use the incident as a teachable moment, to get the rules established, as far as dating, and also about the dangers of putting anything out in the cloud that could reflect badly in the future.

No 12 year old in my house was allowed to have a boyfriend....especially a horny one.
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Old 07-14-2019, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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My daughter was not allowed to date until she was 16 and did not have a phone until she started to drive but we only had flip phones back then.
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Old 07-14-2019, 05:02 PM
 
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What age is this kid she is "dating"?
Sorry that as a first post this is what drew you here.
I'm sure you'll get good advice or opinions.
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Old 07-14-2019, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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My daughter was not allowed to date until she was 16 and did not have a phone until she started to drive but we only had flip phones back then.
Exactly. Mine either.
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Old 07-15-2019, 08:59 PM
 
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No 12 year old has any business having a boyfriend. Period. So many red flags - saying "I love you" talking about being horny. What part of ANY of that is appropriate for a 12 year old? Would it really have been much better if he was saying that to your daughter?
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Old 07-15-2019, 09:45 PM
 
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No 12 year old has any business having a boyfriend. Period. So many red flags - saying "I love you" talking about being horny. What part of ANY of that is appropriate for a 12 year old? Would it really have been much better if he was saying that to your daughter?
I think the OP is in the United States where it is perfectly fine to date and not in Syria or whatever country you may be in. Dating when you are 12 is different than when you are 16, of course... most often supervised or at least at the mall while parents are also shopping.
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Old 07-15-2019, 09:46 PM
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Two girls and we never had a problem with boyfriends at 12, but I agree with the rest of the pack-too young!
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Old 07-15-2019, 10:24 PM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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I couldn’t even date until I was 17! Much less having a b/f.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:26 AM
 
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Agree with the others--too young to have a boyfriend.

A friend who is a boy, okay, but with the understanding they are still children and that grown up things await them down the road a few years when they can handle them more maturely (hopefully).

Explain this to your daughter in a loving way. Lay down the rules, ie. they can only see each other at school or at your home in a supervised setting with others of her friends in a group.

Keep a sharp eye on the boy without being openly hostile to him as that would just increase his allure.
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