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Originally Posted by Maddie104
Do you feel you influenced her choice in guys?
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I don't know if I could take credit for that.
However, once my ex accepted that the divorce was going to happen, to my surprise HE was the one who first said, "We are going to have to get along and be civil in front of our daughter." He went to AA meetings for a time, so he may have picked up some adult insight there, I really don't know.
At any rate, except for issues over money (he was very reluctant to pay child support and rarely paid what he was supposed to pay, and I mostly let it go to keep the peace for her sake) we did become civil and attend school events, etc., together. I never put her father down, because she is a smart girl and was going to figure it out herself, and she did. She knows his limitations and accepts him as he is, but she also manages her relationship with him as far as his alcoholism goes.
So, any influence I may have had might have been in just letting her see that I took responsibility for making a bad choice.