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No my husband and I buy their drugs and alcohol, why should they have to spend their own money on the necessities? I hand it out on Monday mornings along with their lunch money for the week.
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Originally Posted by G-fused
We pool the drug money so we can place a bulk order for the family. It's getting expensive because grandma has developed quite the tolerance.
thank you both. I needed a good laugh on a Monday.
My 15 year old has a paying job during the school year (ass't teacher for his religious school) but cares so little about getting paid that he is still owed for an entire year's salary because he never got all the paper work sorted out. They have said they will pay him for last year when gets all the paperwork in for the upcoming year, but will he put in the effort to make that happen? Who knows? I ask periodically about it as a reminder but that's as much effort as I'm willing to put in (aside from the fact that I have to drive him to work every week) and it's on him to sort it all out.
As for the other incidental money he earns through odd jobs or receives as a gift, he spends pretty much all of that on games for his Switch or sometimes on snacks or meals if he's out.
mostly entertainment- going out to eat with friends, movies, etc. They pay for most of their clothing. Otherwise, they save they save it for spending money in college or other big ticket items they want. We handed down a car- even after saving for awhile, they would not have been able to afford to purchase vehicles that I'd consider safe or reliable enough for a newly licensed 16/17 year old. We pay for gas and insurance.
no, we are not permissive of drugs and alcohol. (?!)
I spent my money on my car and car insurance in high school. The tiny amount of money I had in middle school was spent on bus fare, skateboards and eating out.
I assume that most young adults/teens have part time jobs these days. I wonder what they spend their money on. Do you prohibit certain things like alcohol, weed, drugs or are you permissive of them. Do they pay rent?
IMHO the biggest difference between my teens and me as a teen is that my kids think nothing of going out for a meal whenever the mood strikes them. I just don't remember that being a thing we did as teens. We'd get some fast food, or a milkshake, but to go to a sit down restaurant for a meal, wasn't a thing in the late 80s where I grew up.
My daughter gets food out 2-3 times a day when she is hanging out with her friends.
I think we were more likely to buy albums...kids these days have Spotify.
Here's a funny story about spending money for young people. Every year, my dad's older brother, who had been successful in business, would pay us a week-long visit. When he left, he'd hand me a five-dollar bill and tell me to enjoy something with it.
Well, I wasn't allowed to have any spending money as a kid. Every penny I earned or received as a gift, was confiscated by my mother and put into a savings account. So when my dad learned that his brother was giving me five-dollar bills, he told him to stop it. So the next year, when I was 10, this uncle handed me another 5-spot, but told me he wasn't supposed to do it, so I should hide it someplace my parents wouldn't find it.
So I headed for my bedroom and decided I'd put it inside a book on a shelf. So which book would my parents be likely to never open? So I chose, "Tarzan and the Golden Lion", put the bill inside and promptly forgot about it completely. So 20 years later, I was taking some books out of the shelf and when I came to the Tarzan book, something made me leaf through it. When a crisp five-dollar bill fell out, before it hit the floor, I remembered how it had gotten there.
When I was in HS, I spent the money I earned working on buying a car, and then paying insurance. I also paid for my own cell phone, and entertainment expenses.
IMHO the biggest difference between my teens and me as a teen is that my kids think nothing of going out for a meal whenever the mood strikes them. I just don't remember that being a thing we did as teens. We'd get some fast food, or a milkshake, but to go to a sit down restaurant for a meal, wasn't a thing in the late 80s where I grew up.
My daughter gets food out 2-3 times a day when she is hanging out with her friends.
I think we were more likely to buy albums...kids these days have Spotify.
I can't really think of any other differences.
I'm about a decade older, and once my friends and I could drive, we went to diners all the time. Technically a "sit down restaurant" I suppose, but not exactly what comes to mind when people say that. I grew up on Long Island and there were diners all over the place, and we'd end up at one after just about any activity.
Obviously different locations have different options, but I don't think kids going out to eat is something all that new. I also think about movies and TV shows from the 1950s that always showed groups of kids going out for hamburgers and malteds
When I was in HS, I spent the money I earned working on buying a car, and then paying insurance. I also paid for my own cell phone, and entertainment expenses.
I do not charge my sons rent. They are 17 (but done with school) and 20. My younger son has offered me rent, but I want him to learn the self-discipline of saving it himself, in his own savings account, and I cannot bring myself to charge him to live in my home. I'd only save it up and give it back to him some day. Which would be a nice thing to do and all, but I would really like for him to save it on his own.
He tends to spend money on clothes and fast food. Also he maintains a video game server that he has to pay a monthly subscription fee for or something. But he is practicing coding with it, so...? I dunno.
My older son will spend his money on video games usually. He can hold onto money more effectively than my younger son, it doesn't seem to burn a hole in his pocket.
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