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Old 08-11-2019, 12:59 PM
 
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Would you disown your child if they were jailed for sexually assaulting someone?
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Old 08-11-2019, 01:02 PM
 
Location: North Idaho
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I wouldn't blame you if you do, but I don't disown my own child. We will work through it. (can't imagine him doing something like that. it would be so out of character)
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Old 08-11-2019, 10:47 PM
 
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I will be very upset, disappointed, angry, heartbroken and heartsick and won’t stand in the way of their punishment but I would always love them.
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Old 08-11-2019, 10:52 PM
 
Location: Texas
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No, I would not disown them. I would try to get them help.
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Old 08-13-2019, 09:15 PM
 
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If they did it I would be absolutely sick and furious but I would not disown them.
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Old 08-14-2019, 12:54 AM
 
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Assault is a physical attack, forcing someone to do something.

So it wouldn't be the other parents angry their child had a fling a month before their child came of age and the couple planned to marry anyway.

I wouldn't disown him/her. I would try to get the child the best counseling or treatment I could.

After jail, I wouldn't be living with a tag over my house on the sex offender map people can check online easily, that's for sure. I wouldn't burden neighbors with extra concern for their children and visitors and house sales.

But I would continue to do my best to get whatever help is needed while he lived elsewhere. I would consider living there as well or maybe not.
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Old 08-14-2019, 05:13 AM
 
Location: Lee County, NC
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No, as already said, I would let the justice system work and they would have to face their punishment, but I would not disown them.
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Old 08-14-2019, 05:26 AM
 
Location: Earth
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I think it would depend on the nature of the crime, but then again, maybe it wouldn't make any difference. If they were remorseful, there's room for forgiveness, but if it were habitual offending, I'd possibly put a few bucks in their commissary and go on with my life.
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Old 08-14-2019, 07:15 AM
 
Location: MID ATLANTIC
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I would disown their actions, but never the child. As others have said, it's impossible to believe your child could even be capable of such action - the OP never said of their child claimed innocence. I once knew (a mentally ill/compulsive liar) a girl that claimed she was raped the night before and that was why she was absent from work on a new job. She didn't count on the employer contacting the police when they heard it was not reported. She was later arrested for filing a false police report, but it could have gone the other way.
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Old 08-14-2019, 08:56 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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we told our kids if they ever call us from jail, "prepare to spend the night". We would never disown them but they will pay the price for any crimes they commit. I had never known anyone that had ever been to prison. My wife on the other hand has plenty of family members that have been in and out of prison. It always seems that with her family half of them are criminals and the other half are in law enforcement.
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