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Old 09-25-2019, 12:42 PM
 
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You cannot 'disown' your child any more than you can your own flesh & blood (arm or leg, etc).

I have first-hand experience with this, and NOTHING 'good' EVER comes of it.

Whatever issues you may (or may not) have with your Child, whoever your Child has chosen to marry or 'pair-up' with, or whatever off-spring come as direct-result of that pairing, these are PEOPLE...and people NEED other people from time-to-time, in order to learn, grow, PROGRESS-forward in their own lives.

This is YOUR cross to bear, Ma'am, and you WILL be judged, in the end...as to how you carried yourself, in this life.

Flesh of YOUR flesh, blood of YOUR blood.

You should be REJOICING that out of literally BILLIONS of people walking this earth, she FOUND somebody, and somebody found HER.

REJOICE in her choice to commit.

Support her, by sharing your experience & wisdom, wherever/whenever it is asked for.

You cannot 'push' her out of the nest...she has already taken-flight.

REJOICE in the few-remaining years you both have together....

DO NOT leave her with ANY negative-memories, of these years YET to come.

Only THEN, On your deathbed (many years from now), will you then (hopefully) look back, and smile...before letting your last breath go.

She needs you, THEY need you...and YOU need THEM !
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Old 09-25-2019, 01:04 PM
 
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So you have a sister AND a daughter expecting babies with high functioning autistic men.


Wow. What are the odds?
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Old 09-25-2019, 01:16 PM
 
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No. My daughter is my son's sister.
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Old 09-25-2019, 01:47 PM
 
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No. My daughter is my son's sister.
But that is not what you said in another post. You said your sister is having a baby with her autistic boyfriend in the post about the baby shower. In this post you said your daughter is expecting with her autistic boyfriend and then in parenthesis you say son in law. Please reread your posts and be clearer on who is who.
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Old 09-25-2019, 01:52 PM
 
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Tony - before we get into a heartfelt discussion about this baby, can you clarify why you first called the mother your sister and now you're calling her your daughter?

I'm going to assume this mother to be is actually your sister, because that kind of sibling relationship is VERY common, where the milestones of a sibling are ignored or denigrated.

Your relationship to the baby's dad isn't really important here, since you don't state he's done anything offensive.

So. In general, why do you have this rivalry with your sister?
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:25 PM
 
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No. That's my daughter.
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:33 PM
 
Location: NYC
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So OP which is it? Daughter or sister?

//www.city-data.com/forum/paren...by-shower.html
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Old 09-25-2019, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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I disowned my daughter. I'm upset that she is expecting a child with her high functioning autistic boyfriend (my son in law). She's upset with me. Was it the right thing to do?
Why would you do something like that. She’s her own person not your slave.

My mom didn’t want me to marry my wife. I told her I don’t give a f what you want. I have my own life. And these were my actual words. My fiancée, my moms husband and everyone else. I didn’t really care what my mom wanted.

Why do people think because they gave birth to a child that they are forever going to control that child’s life. I old tell you to take a hike also. Go ahead disown me.

Someday when you’re old and gray you’re gonna want to see what your bloodline produced. Your daughter may tell you that she disowned you. And I wouldn’t blame her.
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Old 09-25-2019, 05:22 PM
 
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So OP which is it? Daughter or sister?

//www.city-data.com/forum/paren...by-shower.html
Somebody gets the Magnum PI, Rockford Files, Columbo and Barnaby Jones award!
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Old 09-25-2019, 06:22 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Unless your daughter is 14 or 15 years old and you will be responsible for supporting and raising her child, it is none of your business except to be happy for your daughter and your grandchild's father,
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