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You probably yelled at him too much when he was little.
Why would you say something like that? I wasn’t in my head and a loner because I got yelled at, it’s just how God made me. Since when is introversion created by being yelled at? Do you have studies to back that up?
Why would you say something like that? I wasn’t in my head and a loner because I got yelled at, it’s just how God made me. Since when is introversion created by being yelled at? Do you have studies to back that up?
Actually, I can personally say that being yelled at often as a child directly affects how I handle dealing with people as an adult. I avoid confrontation and if yelled at, I will stand and say nothing. My childhood taught me that makes it stop quicker. My childhood also taught me that staying under the radar keep me out of the eyesight of school bullies (I went to a small school).
Actually, I can personally say that being yelled at often as a child directly affects how I handle dealing with people as an adult. I avoid confrontation and if yelled at, I will stand and say nothing. My childhood taught me that makes it stop quicker. My childhood also taught me that staying under the radar keep me out of the eyesight of school bullies (I went to a small school).
Read into that what you may.
I only read into that that you as an individual took on certain personality traits because you had an verbally abusive childhood. I would certainly never read into it that it’s justified to accuse OP of being at fault for her sons introversion.Every kid who is an introvert was not abused or yelled at though, I think that’s ridiculous stretch to make. Specially in this case, where OP states that both her and her husband are also introverts. I didn’t say thing about him avoiding confrontation just that he keeps to himself and prefers one friend at a time and that one friend has moved away. I was born a loner, I wasn’t turned into one.
I only read into that that you as an individual took on certain personality traits because you had an verbally abusive childhood. I would certainly never read into it that it’s justified to accuse OP of being at fault for her sons introversion.Every kid who is an introvert was not abused or yelled at though, I think that’s ridiculous stretch to make. Specially in this case, where OP states that both her and her husband are also introverts. I didn’t say thing about him avoiding confrontation just that he keeps to himself and prefers one friend at a time and that one friend has moved away. I was born a loner, I wasn’t turned into one.
I'll buy that. I was always able to play on my own as a child, more so than my siblings were. So I have those traits as well.
I'm just saying there is a definite correlation in the personality/self preservation area for me as well.
I'll buy that. I was always able to play on my own as a child, more so than my siblings were. So I have those traits as well.
I'm just saying there is a definite correlation in the personality/self preservation area for me as well.
That may be. What I really objected to was the other posters "You probably yelled at him too much". There is no basis to make such an accusation and I can't imagine what she was hoping to accomplish with that post.
That may be. What I really objected to was the other posters "You probably yelled at him too much". There is no basis to make such an accusation and I can't imagine what she was hoping to accomplish with that post.
Give your time to your child don't allow to roam alone at any place, always be with him so that they can come close to you don't left with you housekeepers, because by staying with them he also thinks whatever they see.
My daughter was an introvert and no friends in school. She only had one friend her cousin in the family. But as she has grown up she is making friends and socializing too. I noticed a great change in her social behaviour after she turned 11 before that i was sick worried about her. It ok that you are worried but i think as he grow up he will also change his social behaviour some kids are just very choosey about their friendships.
I"m just not sure if it's an issue or not. People around here take their children so seriously to an extreme, and I never wanted to be that parent but maybe it's creeping in.
I don't think it's an issue...unless you allow it to creep in.
Lots of very intelligent ( and happy and content) people were loners when young.
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