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Old 11-22-2019, 12:36 PM
 
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Nothing happened it's just something I sometimes think about. I try not to be bitter about it. Yes it was long about 10 years ago. Might be a bit harsh to judge him. I have a cousin and when we were little I think she was 14 we bet a dollar and I won and she didn't give me my dollar the first time she didn't want to then I asked again and she did give it to me ever since then I can't see her in a completely good light. I can't look at her as someone that I want be around even though she's never done me wrong or disrespected in any other way besides that instance.
You have real problems with harboring ill-will towards people. Your step dad is right, you are acting like a bitter person.

You probably need to find a way to talk to someone about this and see what's causing all this, or you'll have a very long road ahead.
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Old 11-22-2019, 01:24 PM
 
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You have real problems with harboring ill-will towards people. Your step dad is right, you are acting like a bitter person.

You probably need to find a way to talk to someone about this and see what's causing all this, or you'll have a very long road ahead.
Interesting. I didn't find the OP'S remark or elaboration on his life experience as bitter. Perhaps that's just a difference in interpretation of context.
The OP sounds wise to question certain behaviors.
It is an indicator sometimes.
As you are conveying quite nicely in your bitter retort to him.
Most folks...normally do have bitter moments in life. How they learn from it makes the difference.
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Old 11-22-2019, 01:55 PM
 
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I know it's not possible to know a very accurate answer to my title considering you don't know him or me. When I was younger I remember him saying I'm bitter. My mom talked right after he said that so he didn't say anything else about that statement nor did I. I think he said that because I was very quiet and introverted, always in my room.

Maybe to him a person that's very secluded from other people means they might be bitter?. I don't know what was the point of him saying that, what was it suppose to accomplish?. You can take that statement to mean different things. Is it meant to be taken as him being mean to me. Does it mean I should stop being bitter whatever that means. Why say that and not elaborate on what your trying to say and what you mean by that statement.
I wouldn't give too much weight to unsubstantiated judgment. I had a great relationship with my step mom but if she offered only non-constructive criticism, credibility would have gone down to 0.
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Old 11-22-2019, 08:56 PM
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Location: Cody, WY
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How have you interacted this past decade?

As with any human being, you should treat him with respect.
Not every human is worthy of respect. Treat him based on your own principles—not on the opinions of people on a message board who know neither of you.
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Old 11-23-2019, 02:52 PM
 
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You have real problems with harboring ill-will towards people. Your step dad is right, you are acting like a bitter person.

You probably need to find a way to talk to someone about this and see what's causing all this, or you'll have a very long road ahead.
I don't think this sentiment existed until after the comment. It's stated as the cause of these feelings. Not feedback on something pre-existing.
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Old 12-29-2019, 11:08 PM
 
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Nothing happened it's just something I sometimes think about. I try not to be bitter about it. Yes it was long about 10 years ago. Might be a bit harsh to judge him. I have a cousin and when we were little I think she was 14 we bet a dollar and I won and she didn't give me my dollar the first time she didn't want to then I asked again and she did give it to me ever since then I can't see her in a completely good light. I can't look at her as someone that I want be around even though she's never done me wrong or disrespected in any other way besides that instance.

That's too grudgy. A dollar? I'll send you two if you forgive her. Make a joke about it. Make it a joke to always ask "where's my damn dollar?" but then just not really worry about it - instead have fun together. Turn a resentment into a gag. Who knows? Maybe she'll pay you back as a joke. Or make another bet, lose, n don't pay her. Turn it into not a big deal.
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Old 12-29-2019, 11:18 PM
 
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The one dollar is not a big deal. Sometimes words cut deep and have a lasting impact.

Ya can't let yerself be so easily hurt. People talk stoopid shyt and shoot off their mouths stoopidly. Ever hear the saying "make sure brain is in gear before engaging mouth"? Sometimes people don't. Gotta forgive em.


Yer lucky. There are people and families and cultures who physically beat each other within inches of their lives constantly - but then get up, shake hands, hug and get over it.



Don't hang on to resentment over little things. Forgive people for for their dumb ****. Yer not gonna find too many people who don't do or say dumb ****.
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Old 12-30-2019, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Vallejo
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It's not that important but I do want to know if to ignore him or not, should I like him or not.
That's probably what he meant by it.
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