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Old 11-23-2019, 10:31 AM
 
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This really blew me away. I can understand not stereotyping children, not forcing a child who obviously chooses toys, clothing, behavior of the opposite sex into the role that matches his/her biological sex. I can certainly understand not piercing a girl's earlobes until she's old enough to make that choice for herself. I can understand having on hand both trucks and dolls as toys. I can understand having both pants and skirts on hand (although offering a biologically male child dresses and skirts is a recipe for disaster in our culture). But to raise a child without any reference to the gender that child is, seems so out of step with our culture as to be disabling to that child. To try to raise a child without ever referencing that child's biological sex (until the day that the child discovers the outside world, and figures out about boys, girls, and that he/she is one of them, and screams out, "I'm a boy/girl! Can't you see that?") seems not only unwise, but cruel.

Oh well, the first child is always the parents' grand experiment. The second, not as much. And by the third or later, parents are so overwhelmed with responsibilities that they just kind of let those ones grow up, without tremendous parental interference. They usually turn out the least messed up.
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Old 11-23-2019, 10:48 AM
 
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I totally agree Parent.
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Old 11-23-2019, 12:03 PM
 
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I also agree, OP. I honestly couldn't finish reading the article.
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Old 11-23-2019, 12:12 PM
 
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I believe that not only is it ridiculous, but a form of child abuse. I read a article about a couple raising their son gender neutral. The mother dressed her little 2 yr old boy in tutus, nail polish and everything in pink. I would bet a hundred bucks that she was disappointed that he wasn’t a girl.

I’m not against a girl playing with cars or a boy playing with a doll, but not acknowledging a child’s sex because one wants to show everyone how “progressive” they are is ridiculous.
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Old 11-23-2019, 09:39 PM
 
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I think we all agree the author is not doing this for the benefit of their child, but rather to keep the spotlight on themselves and their counter-culture parenting choices.
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Old 11-24-2019, 01:10 AM
 
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That parent is overthinking everything, and I say that as a parent of a transgender kid, now a young adult.
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Old 11-24-2019, 01:16 AM
 
Location: Brackenwood
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My kids sure as hell aren't "gender-neutral" so I'm not gonna raise them as if they are.
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Old 11-24-2019, 02:48 AM
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This really blew me away. I can understand not stereotyping children, not forcing a child who obviously chooses toys, clothing, behavior of the opposite sex into the role that matches his/her biological sex. I can certainly understand not piercing a girl's earlobes until she's old enough to make that choice for herself. I can understand having on hand both trucks and dolls as toys. I can understand having both pants and skirts on hand (although offering a biologically male child dresses and skirts is a recipe for disaster in our culture). But to raise a child without any reference to the gender that child is, seems so out of step with our culture as to be disabling to that child. To try to raise a child without ever referencing that child's biological sex (until the day that the child discovers the outside world, and figures out about boys, girls, and that he/she is one of them, and screams out, "I'm a boy/girl! Can't you see that?") seems not only unwise, but cruel.

Oh well, the first child is always the parents' grand experiment. The second, not as much. And by the third or later, parents are so overwhelmed with responsibilities that they just kind of let those ones grow up, without tremendous parental interference. They usually turn out the least messed up.
I think this is bizarre.
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Old 11-24-2019, 04:54 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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My sister said they were going to do the gender-neutral thing. They painted the baby's bedroom green, and dressed him in neutral colors. By the time he was 2, he had figured out he was a boy and he liked boy stuff like toy cars, superheroes, trains and toy guns. I have a feeling the daycare workers weren't into the whole gender neutral thing, and that's where he was spending most of his waking hours.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:20 AM
 
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There was a tragic story/ experiment on a twin boy who was badly damaged during circumcision. The decision was made to raise him as a girl. It was a horrible life. He knew he was a boy.

When he was an adult he had a lot of attention in the media. He was married with a family. He ended his own life.
I agree with the child abuse opinion.

Kids can't have everything they want. Not a pet unicorn. Not the life of Dora the Explorer. Not a constant diet of sweets. Not a sex change. WTH is wrong with these people who want to be parents then screw it up so badly?
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