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Old 12-21-2019, 06:50 AM
 
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As a step father to 2 beautiful kids. (Daughter 13, son 7) I would say this topic is extremely important. It isn't necessarily that TV is extremely bad, it just needs to be monitored and in moderation.

A tactic that my wife and I use often is time limits with devices such as tablets, phones or TV. On school nights or days, we limit to an hour or 2 and on weekends a little longer. We also have Disney+ but I implemented a tradition that was passed down in my childhood of having family game night/ family movie night every Friday. As a kid, I was so excited for and looked forward to Fridays. That made a huge impact on me and I wanted to transition that to my family now.

So if the kids do have extended time on the TV or their devices, my wife and I are right there with them to interact with them and not just leave them on their own. I truly believe that makes a world of difference. Instead of using the TV or devices as a distraction method ( and trust me, some days it gets very very tempting to do so, but try to interact with them and use the electronics as a resource not an alternative.

And no matter how much resistance you get, stand your ground! It's tough when they look at you with their adorable eyes, but they will thank you later for being firm. I did, with my parents!

I hope that helps a little!
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Old 12-29-2019, 09:58 AM
 
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I implemented a tradition that was passed down in my childhood of having family game night/ family movie night every Friday. As a kid, I was so excited for and looked forward to Fridays. That made a huge impact on me and I wanted to transition that to my family now.

So if the kids do have extended time on the TV or their devices, my wife and I are right there with them to interact with them and not just leave them on their own

We had game night too. Learning how to negotiate and strategize are such a important skills.

Pre-1980's, children had to learn how to share bedrooms, bathrooms and a single family TV. It taught them skills that kids aren't learning today like cooperation, patience instead of instant gratification, losing with grace. Game night is a way for them to learn these skills.

A friend left her pre-teen son home while she ran to the supermarket. He found porn by accident.

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Eleven is the average age a child is first exposed to porn. And 94 percent of kids will see porn by age 14.

Documentary filmmaker Jared Brock says he saw porn for the first time when he was 10. Former porn addict David Paisley, 29, was around 11 or 12 —that's when the internet came into his home.

"I might have snuck pictures from a catalog before, but when the internet came … then I could get anything I wanted. It got really bad in high school, it was a free-for-all," he said.

Gone is the porn of yesteryear, when materials were behind beaded curtains in the video store or in brown bags on newsstands. Type the word sex into a search engine, and get a screen full of hardcore pornography in less than five seconds, Brock said. And it's available 24/7 on handheld devices, which means younger children are seeing hardcore porn at a time when their brains are still developing and the dopamine rush that porn elicits can lead to addiction, said Gary Wilson, author of "Your Brain on Porn."
https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifes...417-story.html


Good for you for game night and watching with them!!!
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