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Old 12-29-2019, 08:47 PM
 
Location: New York Area
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Disclaimer - I am asian.
2-4 decades ago (1980s, 1990s), I would say beating your children as discipline was kinda sorta common and not abnormal. How is it these days in 2010s? Is it still common? If no, what changed in past couple decades?
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I have two children, 23 and 22. Neither my wife nor I have even considered beating an option.
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Old 12-29-2019, 09:51 PM
 
Location: Forest bathing
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I was literally whipped with a police belt. It taught me to hate the abuser. That belt was laying on a couch on the way to my bedroom. It resembled a snake coiled and ready to strike. It also severely traumatized me: I was diagnosed as suffering from Severe Chikdhood Trauma and also PTSD. I still have nightmares about it. Please consider another form of punishment other than physical. Please don’t beat your kids.
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Old 12-30-2019, 12:25 AM
 
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I am 37 and I went thru spankings and whatnot when I was young. These days, I would NEVER do that to my son
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Old 12-30-2019, 09:30 AM
 
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Disclaimer - I am asian.
2-4 decades ago (1980s, 1990s), I would say beating your children as discipline was kinda sorta common and not abnormal. How is it these days in 2010s? Is it still common? If no, what changed in past couple decades?
Asking for USA
Oh stop it.

It was never normal. It was never "common" thing to do.
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Old 12-30-2019, 10:28 AM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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Disclaimer - I am asian.
2-4 decades ago (1980s, 1990s), I would say beating your children as discipline was kinda sorta common and not abnormal. How is it these days in 2010s? Is it still common? If no, what changed in past couple decades?
Asking for USA
Beating was never common. A parent who would beat a kid would have to be deranged, out of control, mentally ill. I'm sure some beatings did occur as there have always been people who are crazy. Some military families were known for severe discipline, maybe even beatings. But it only produced angry, aggressive kids.

Spanking was much more common although it is largely out of favor now, except probably for an occasional light swat to a young child who can't understand a verbal explanation and is in imminent danger of getting hurt. Spanking was common during the 1950s--we were spanked if we did something we knew was wrong, had been told not to do. We were warned first and it was explained to us. Then if we went ahead and did it anyway, we knew we could expect to be spanked. But that is nothing to do with beatings. Not sure if you are really being serious.
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Old 12-30-2019, 10:51 AM
 
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Disclaimer - I am asian.
2-4 decades ago (1980s, 1990s), I would say beating your children as discipline was kinda sorta common and not abnormal. How is it these days in 2010s? Is it still common? If no, what changed in past couple decades?
Asking for USA
The word "beating" means far more than what has been used in the past which would be referred to as hitting or spanking. One definition for beating

"a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly."

Beating used to be done in private. No one admitted to it. But also no one interfered if they saw it occur. This has, rightly, changed.

What changed was a social shift, including high profile abuse cases and education, which changed law then public opinion. People who still attempt to justify hitting their children, rightly, have to work harder to convince themselves or anyone else that is it a Good Idea.
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Old 12-30-2019, 10:54 AM
 
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I do not believe in beating ANYONE. IMO, a spank is not a beating.

A good swat on the butt is needed in some cases. I also think getting the strap by a principal on a child's hand should be brought back to the school system.
Dog this gets old. Do you even know what you are doing? Do you even know what respect IS? Do YOU respect people who hit you?
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Old 12-30-2019, 11:05 AM
 
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I got a spanking a few times but I deserved it
The first time with neighborhood kids flicking matches at the back of the house
Where dry hay was we could have easily burnt
The place down. - I got “ the belt”

I never did it again. -


The second time we were throwing rocks some were good size off an overpass - and also threw a mannequin that caused an accident

Grew up with a bunch of hellions - they never got spanked

In high school I was more straight and narrow
And my hellion pals started smoking dope - they didn’t care because their parents wouldn’t
Discipline them. ...

With my kid. I gave him a whack or two on the butt. And that was it
( he was running towards the road. And didn’t listen to me )


Now I had 2 kids in my class that got beat on. Not spanked. Big difference to me
One was by a mother to her daughter - have her bruises
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Old 12-30-2019, 12:48 PM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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If you hit your spouse - it is domestic abuse
If you hit another adult - it is assault
If you hit an animal - it is animal abuse; so why on earth would anyone think it was okay to hit a toddler, small child or anyone else for that matter? Hitting is not an acceptable response for anyone and it is traumatizing.

You are supposed to be your child's safety net and the person they can trust most in the world. How can they trust someone who hurts them? If you don't have a better response to someone's behavior other than lashing out, there is something wrong with you and you shouldn't be a parent. It is lazy, barbaric parenting.
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Old 12-30-2019, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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I got the old chopstick slap on my wrist once or twice as a kid in the 80s.

Definitely not common. Don't know anyone else who does it.
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