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Don’t spring it on her last minute that sounds cruel, besides she could also refused to go at that point. How much longer till she’s 18? Star by helping her to figure out what she wants to be and do for the next few years. Help her to head on that direction. Tell her the whys of your move, she’s old enough to understand finances. Compare and contrast for her the opportunities she has in both places. The new move offers her a chance to start over without people judging her. Figure out if she can stay with someone till the school year is over if you move before. Remember she may be young and rash, but she feels like an adult in her mind, give her adult things to think about and help guide her
Legally, she can leave home at 17. It's not running away, it's leaving home. But I would have that discussion with her ASAP about the fact that you need to move, her life goals, what she wants. You need to help her to become equipped to support herself so that she won't need to rely on a man for food, clothing, shelter, transportation, etc.
If this girl is a senior in high school, I would do everything possible to remain where you are until she graduates (which would only be, what, 4 months from now?) If you can't stay even for that length of time, perhaps you can find a friend who would be willing to let her crash on their couch for 4 months.
Shes just parroting you and her Dad who aren't married. With a little more experience and age, she will get better at living with guys. Agree, she still is a child. Probably should consult with an attorney about what could happen to her dad about abandonment.
Is she attending school? If she is, I would move heaven and earth to make sure she finishes in place.
If not, then I agree with hothulamaui, lay out the limited options she is facing, and involve her in planning her future.
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If this girl is a senior in high school, I would do everything possible to remain where you are until she graduates (which would only be, what, 4 months from now?) If you can't stay even for that length of time, perhaps you can find a friend who would be willing to let her crash on their couch for 4 months.
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Sounds as if she's had a lot of disruption in her life already. Try not to add more.
And absolutely do not spring it on her last minute. That's both cruel and demeaning. Why would she ever trust either of you after that?
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