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How is it that she is even still employed with such terrible anxiety? Isn't it amazing that for someone who needs help with a child can seem to hold down a full time job?
I hope there are no plans for Child #3.
Your daughter will eventually come around.....(when she needs something). I hope you and your wife can recharge your batteries with a trip North, South, East or West. Wherever you go, make it only about the two of you.
Good luck.
Is her husband helping out a lot? I have a friend who gets anxiety, BUT it is because her husband is gone much of the time and then when he is home, he goes off with friends for some festival or to get beers instead of pitching in with the kids. It is no wonder. Having kids is a two-person operation and the son-in-law needs to contribute more if he isn’t already. It isn’t up to the grandparents to take over for him. Maybe the daughter needs to come up with a better way to split duties if they haven’t done so already.
How is it that she is even still employed with such terrible anxiety? Isn't it amazing that for someone who needs help with a child can seem to hold down a full time job?
It's not just amazing, it's awfully hard to believe.
I think there's some Oscar-worthy acting going on whenever daughter wants something from her parents. Does she suffer from anxiety? Probably, to some degree. Does she uses that to manipulate people? Absolutely.
Why do anything? Why not just let things stay as they are? Your daughter will figure out sooner or later than an apology is not coming. That's up to her to deal with. Focus on supporting your wife.
This. And practice saying "your problems are not my problems".
How is it that she is even still employed with such terrible anxiety?
Isn't it amazing that for someone who needs help with a child can seem to hold down a full time job?
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Originally Posted by fluffythewondercat
It's not just amazing, it's awfully hard to believe.
I think there's some Oscar-worthy acting going on whenever daughter wants something from her parents. Does she suffer from anxiety? Probably, to some degree. Does she uses that to manipulate people? Absolutely.
150k isn't that much money in some areas but it is enough. It's not that she can't afford childcare, it's that she doesn't want to, and would prefer to use you guys...for free. Most everyone struggles financially with kids, especially young kids.
The anxiety fuels the issues obviously. And like others said, we don't know your wife's stance.
I'm sure you go back and forth between compassion and feeling taken advantage of. I have no more advice other than to be aware and set boundaries.
My bipolar sister-in-law worked at a company where employees had lifetime (until age 62) contracts.
On day, she "saw" vomit in her office and called security. She never understood now security did not see the vomit. She had hallucinations, but she had a lifetime contract.
I am sure the Americans with Disabilities Act prevents many ill people from being fired.
I would not say anything because you might ruin the relationship. My kids know that Im brutally honest Dad. After they left the house for marriage the dynamic changed because of the spouse(He or she does not know me like my kids)
I think these young adults have realized parenting and marriage is not so easy after all.
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