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Originally Posted by _jbub88_
First off I know your loved.
I had the same problem except from a different angle. My son lives in the inlaws city. The other side of the family is not my blood but they continually intervened into my visit with our son. We received multiple calls, texts and emails about a group dinner or visit. We said no multiple times via my big toe hurts, a Brain surgery that day, I'm running ultramarathan, etc.
They are super nice people, but my wife and I are very private people.
These visit offers went on for months. They finally conceded/stopped after I got very direct. Sadly! We simply wanted private time with my son and DIL without needling or monitoring.
I forgot to say. Also the holiday thing is a big issue too. Every family has their own special family tradition. Adding another whole family to Christmas dinner for example will suddenly cause issue, "oh we do it this way", " we eat at this time", etc.
My point is maybe your in-laws are like us????
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"These visit offers went on for months."
I'm confused. Do you mean that your visits with your son went on "for months" or they asked you multiple times to have a group dinner or visit over a period of several months until "you got direct" with them?
I am also the out of town parent (ie. my son lives in his in-law city). While it can be a little annoying at time, when I have a week or ten day visit to my son & DIL and grandchildren's house and we usually see her parents once, or maybe twice, during that time.
However, it is usually because we are celebrating a holiday or a grandchild's birthday. What are my son & DIL expected to do? Leave me alone at their house while they celebrate the holiday at her parent's house with them and our joint grandchildren and later celebrate the holiday with me? Or have two separate birthday parties? One with each set of grandparents? Or have two Easter egg hunts? Or plan a party or cook-out with friends and family and only invite one set of parents? And, which set do they invite? The grandparents who live in town or the grandparents that are visiting from out of town?