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Old 01-31-2020, 09:36 PM
 
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In kindergarten I was regularly punched in the stomach by a boy named Scott Parker. I'm clueless why he chose me to be the one that he punched; I guess if he hit another boy they would punch him back. He was eventually removed from class but it didn't stop him until he was kicked out of school.

I'm going to be 54 in a month and still remember the punches, I wasn't much older then your daughter. If it doesn't stop, your daughter could potentially have memories of this girl hitting her with the school not stepping up for the rest of her life too. She is being bullied.
Thank you for sharing, some people will scoff at it..But it was the failure of adults protecting you. I am so sorry that you still recall this as your earliest memories..Thank you for speaking up..
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Old 02-01-2020, 06:50 AM
 
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I don’t think so, no. It’s to let the child know how you feel when you are hit. It’s to help the other child develop empathy and encourage dialog instead of retaliation. The school says the other child is still developing her empathy ( they’re 3), but I’m just concerned that my child keeps getting hurt. And yet I want her to learn to stand up for herself. Another parent told me she saw my child stand up strongly and say “no!” when she was hit. So that’s good. I want her to know that she’ll encounter people like this all her life but that she can handle it. But how much is too much?
That's great and all but do the children understand these concepts? Those are big messages to be figured out by the children. They learn through modeling by watching every detail.
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Old 02-01-2020, 08:23 AM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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My daughter started a new preschool this past September and loved it in the beginning. But she started coming home complaining about being pushed and hit by another little girl. She started resisting going to school. I tried to bolster her confidence letting her know that this should not be happening and telling her to confront the girl and tell her “No!” At the same time I let the school know this was happening. The school tries to encourage the children to work out things by sharing how they feel with the other child and offering a peace token. This helped and I think gave my daughter a sense of confidence and control. We initiated a play date with the other little girl - it turned out she had liked my daughter all along and calls her “her best friend” and apparently that was how she expressed this feeling. However last week, she hit my daughter with an object causing bruising. I’m just wondering, how long do I let this go on? They are 3 going on 4. What is age appropriate? How much do I keep expecting and encouraging my daughter to handle it with the other child?
So everyone is saying to let the school handle it in the moment. My question is this only happening at school or did it also occur during the play date? Where was your daughter when she was hit with the object?
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Old Yesterday, 07:25 PM
 
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There was no hitting during the play date. She was hit with a book in the classroom.
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Old Today, 09:03 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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There was no hitting during the play date. She was hit with a book in the classroom.
Have you spoken to the school director yet?
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