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Old 02-10-2020, 11:44 AM
 
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I live in Ireland so the situation might be different from the U.S. but I'm hearing stories from friends about a sibling or friend of a friend who's family has had to pay off drug dealers cause one of the kids borrowed too much and couldn't pay it back.

The closest story was a classmate who told me his younger teenage brother borrowed €750 worth of weed and then couldn't pay it back. The drug dealers came to his parents house and threatened to burn the house down if it wasn't paid. His parents took out a loan and paid the dealers. Many say going to the police is pointless cause they'll tell you the same thing but might give you the added benefit of getting your kids in trouble for drugs.

If you were in such situations, what would you do?
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Old 02-10-2020, 11:52 AM
 
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Here in the USA, I have never heard about that, but am sure it has happened and kept quiet.
I would have that drug dealer arrested so fast his head would spin.
Then my child would probably have to pay the consequences and hopefully learn a good life lesson.

Yes, I love my kids,(who now are all grown up) enough to stop inappropriate and illegal behavior.
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Old 02-10-2020, 01:17 PM
 
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How common is it? Who knows??

Has it ever happened...probably.

The info is confusing. Did he borrow money or drugs? You say he borrowed 750 Euros worth of weed...what? Borrow weed? Did he intend to give the weed back Lol.
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Old 02-10-2020, 01:51 PM
 
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How common is it? Who knows??

Has it ever happened...probably.

The info is confusing. Did he borrow money or drugs? You say he borrowed 750 Euros worth of weed...what? Borrow weed? Did he intend to give the weed back Lol.
lol...I mean was lent it on credit...couldn't pay it back and the dealers came knockin and scared the crap out of the parents...
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Old 02-10-2020, 01:57 PM
 
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I've never heard of paying off an actual "drug debt," but I know parents who have thrown a lot of money at trying to get help for an addicted adult child.

My best friend had numerous comorbid mental illnesses and substance abuse problems. He shot himself in the eye with ratshot. His parents sent him to a very high end eye hospital that was able to restore most of his sight at who knows what cost. He committed suicide a few months later.
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Old 02-11-2020, 06:08 AM
 
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The info is confusing. Did he borrow money or drugs? You say he borrowed 750 Euros worth of weed...what? Borrow weed? Did he intend to give the weed back Lol.
Was he buying it to resell? If not this story sounds pretty made up. I don't know what prices are like in Ireland, but here 750 Euros would buy a whole lot of herb, way more than any one person could consume before it dried out and became nasty.
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Old 02-11-2020, 08:19 AM
 
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My ex FIL paid off a few dealers that were coming after my BIL. About 5k in total, this was all from pills around 2010.
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Old 02-11-2020, 08:58 AM
 
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Was he buying it to resell? If not this story sounds pretty made up. I don't know what prices are like in Ireland, but here 750 Euros would buy a whole lot of herb, way more than any one person could consume before it dried out and became nasty.
Yeah, and it isn't something where credit is readily extended, typically it's cash and carry for the end level consumer.
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Old 02-11-2020, 10:23 AM
 
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Should my family ever be faced with a child battling addiction, the best case scenario for us (and worst for the dealer) would be for them to show up at my house to threaten me.

The average drug dealer is a junkie skell. The cartels wouldn't be collecting debts from parents.

I'd simply smile, invite them inside to talk (thereby satisfying the castle doctrine legal requirement), then straight up end it.

In 2008 I was living with a friend just prior to buying my house. He was into some trouble. A bookie came to the door looking for him. It didn't end well for that guy. For my daughters, I would do far, far worse.
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Old 02-11-2020, 10:47 AM
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Yeah, and it isn't something where credit is readily extended, typically it's cash and carry for the end level consumer.
^^This.


I've known about a few of these situations. In every single instance, it was a case of the junkie kid and his/her junkie partner scamming the family member.
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