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Old 02-18-2020, 10:00 AM
 
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Not to be a wet blanket but. . .

The mom will be 42 when she delivers. Her chances of having a child with Down Syndrome are 1 in 70. That's slightly higher than at age 41 (1 in 80). It does not matter if she is healthy or whatever. It's a genetic thing. Down Syndrome can be diagnosed during pregnancy and a decision made at that time.
Every mom I know that gave birth over 40 had a healthy baby.

I also know someone who was told her baby WOULD have Downs syndrome. She didn't. Happily graduated from college 2 years ago. Good thing she didn't make a "DECISION" and kill her perfectly healthy baby.

Stop fear mongering already. Seriously. [those people who always have to be negative every second of the flipping day. ]

 
Old 02-18-2020, 11:48 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Both of my aunts had kids up until they are 45. But they had tons of kids before that age, maybe 9-10. Not the first one.
 
Old 02-18-2020, 12:26 PM
 
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I have tons of friends who had babies in their low or mid forties, all turned out fine. Don't worry.
 
Old 02-18-2020, 12:47 PM
 
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I can’t say I know many women or any women having kids until their mid 40s. That’s like 44-45 years old. That is old. 41 is also pretty up there, it’s really pushing it.

Why are people here so pro women having babies in their 40s?
 
Old 02-18-2020, 04:45 PM
 
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I can’t say I know many women or any women having kids until their mid 40s. That’s like 44-45 years old. That is old. 41 is also pretty up there, it’s really pushing it.

Why are people here so pro women having babies in their 40s?
Because it's none of our business if people have babies in their 40s. If that's when they're want to have a baby, good for them. You may live in a part of the country that skews towards having kids really young, or you may just not be paying attention, because it's not rare. A whole lot of us (me included) would not be here if women weren't perfectly capable of having babies after 40.
 
Old 02-18-2020, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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I can’t say I know many women or any women having kids until their mid 40s. That’s like 44-45 years old. That is old. 41 is also pretty up there, it’s really pushing it.

Why are people here so pro women having babies in their 40s?
Not so much "pro" as "to each her own". The OP's cousin does not have any kids. It's not like she's having a "caboose" after already having had a family. The best time to have your kids is when you have them.
 
Old 02-18-2020, 06:05 PM
 
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Unless you’re suggesting she terminates the pregnancy, there’s not much she can do about it. So put your judgement aside and offer her your support if she needs it.
 
Old 02-19-2020, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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I can’t say I know many women or any women having kids until their mid 40s. That’s like 44-45 years old. That is old. 41 is also pretty up there, it’s really pushing it.

Why are people here so pro women having babies in their 40s?
Often it is for economic reasons. People marry later, if at all. It takes much more financial effort now to form a family.

I recently saw a very young family in a restaurant. The parents were young; certainly she was in her twenties. They looked like they were fine financially. There was a baby and two other little ones. I could not help staring, because seeing this is now so rare.
 
Old 02-19-2020, 09:46 AM
 
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Often it is for economic reasons. People marry later, if at all. It takes much more financial effort now to form a family.

I recently saw a very young family in a restaurant. The parents were young; certainly she was in her twenties. They looked like they were fine financially. There was a baby and two other little ones. I could not help staring, because seeing this is now so rare.
This person in the OP (her cousin) supposedly got pregnant accidentally and is not married. Anyone in their 20s with three kids and fine financially has a trust fund, or something.
 
Old 02-19-2020, 09:47 AM
 
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People just have babies late, not for economics reason alone, if that is the case many of us would never been born. Don’t believe the hype out there.
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