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Old 02-19-2020, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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I agree that it should start getting wrapped up by 35. If you meet someone later maybe then you could try ivf or adopt but it is unsettling to me that women are having babies until 50 thanks to science. I also don’t think teens should be getting pregnant but it almost seems like 25 is too young for woman to get pregnant these days by many people’s standards. It seems like 30 has become the ideal age but I see most women having kids around 35.

My colleague is 34 and has 3 yr old and I was thinking oh that’s young! But really 31 is not young to have a baby. I was 35 and almost 37 when I had my kids and I was like the last of anyone I knew having a baby for the first time at 35. I’m 41 now and most people I know seem to be done. I’m in the Boston area so plenty of well educated folks around here. I just don’t see too many who are waiting until 40 but it does happen.
I don't know why being over 35 means you should do IVF or adopt. Could you explain?

 
Old 02-19-2020, 07:57 PM
 
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When I said later in life I was thinking 45.
 
Old 02-19-2020, 08:40 PM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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When I said later in life I was thinking 45.
The OP is 41.
 
Old 02-19-2020, 09:41 PM
 
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Yes it is more common for 40 yr old women to have children with some birth defect.
There is also a higher risk for women who have high blood pressure to develop preeclampsia. Gestational diabetes is not uncommon.


However the rate of birth defects is under 3%.

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Old 02-20-2020, 06:53 AM
 
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My point is that as time has gone on the age that people give birth is increasing and often intervention is needed. Is this a good thing? I don’t know. Obviously the thread has gotten off topic as the woman in question here accidentally got pregnant at 41 by a 28 yr old.
 
Old 02-20-2020, 07:54 AM
 
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Obviously the thread has gotten off topic as the woman in question here accidentally got pregnant at 41 by a 28 yr old.
I don't see anything in the OP about its being an accident. How do you know she wasn't hoping to get pregnant? It's plausible that at age 41, she saw this relationship as her last chance to have a child. And both parents seem pleased about it.
 
Old 02-20-2020, 09:07 AM
 
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I got the impression it wasn’t intentional. Sometimes people are still happy to be pregnant even if they weren’t trying.
 
Old 02-20-2020, 09:23 AM
 
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When I said later in life I was thinking 45.
It gets harder to adopt after age 40-ish (unless you do it privately).
 
Old 02-20-2020, 11:23 AM
 
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