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Old 02-13-2020, 11:50 AM
 
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My cousin will turned 42 a month before her due date. She 13 weeks and waiting on tests results for Down syndrome and also the gender. She said she is not worried and she just has a feeling everything will be ok. Is 41 really risky for down and other health issues? My cousin is in great shape. Is a fitness instructor and eats healthy so not too worried any issues with her health. With all her boyfriends, not being on the pill, and not really using other protection how did she not get pregnant until she was 41? Also her current boyfriend and the father is only 28. He is thrilled though and wants to marry her. I would think a 28 year old would want to spend his life with someone close or his age but what do I know. Your thoughts on all this. I just really hope it’s a happy healthy baby.

 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:08 PM
 
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My thought is that you are delving into things that aren't really your business.
 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:09 PM
 
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Usually the doctor and his well trained team will know . Go to an appointment with her and ask. Doctors are able to water down the medical terminology to match the question.
Those genes play a factor in what gets carried on to the infant.
Congrats to the new parents...may their wisdom and love create a safe haven for the little one.
 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:13 PM
 
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She said she is not worried ...
I would follow her lead.

Today's 41 is not like it was 30 or 50 years ago. It sounds like she's already above and beyond most women her age physically.

Plenty of women through the years have had babies in much worse circumstances. The human body can do some amazing things.
 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:30 PM
 
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The vast majority of women 40+ will have healthy babies. My mom was one of them (43 when I was born). I three friends who gave birth when they were 44 or 45 and all of the babies were healthy. The one mother I know with a Down syndrome child was 27 when she had that baby.

I would not worry about it, and all the other issues (the age of the father, why your cousin never got pregnant before, etc.) are none of your business and you may not even know all the facts.
 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:44 PM
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Usually the doctor and his well trained team will know . Go to an appointment with her and ask. Doctors are able to water down the medical terminology to match the question.
Those genes play a factor in what gets carried on to the infant.
Congrats to the new parents...may their wisdom and love create a safe haven for the little one.
Why should this cousin go to an appointment with the pregnant woman unless she's invited along?

The risk of Down's for a 42 yo woman is 1 in 70. Down's is genetic, but not hereditary except in about 1% of cases.
https://www.ndss.org/about-down-syndrome/down-syndrome/
 
Old 02-13-2020, 12:44 PM
 
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41 is still within the realm of normal, OP. It's not "really risky". Chill.
 
Old 02-13-2020, 01:03 PM
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I would follow her lead.

Today's 41 is not like it was 30 or 50 years ago. It sounds like she's already above and beyond most women her age physically.
Even 30 or 50 years ago a woman was not doomed just because she was older when a baby was born. Yes, the RISKS are higher, but most such children are fine.

My brother is 50. He was born when my mother was 41. I'd bet on either of them against the majority of posters on this forum in an IQ competition any day.

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Plenty of women through the years have had babies in much worse circumstances. The human body can do some amazing things.
Women all over the planet still have babies without any prenatal care and give birth in questionable environments. The majority still survive.
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Old 02-13-2020, 02:11 PM
 
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Wow why are people so mean? I care. And I’m curious of opinions. That is what message boards are for aren’t they? I’m not in their business and bothering my friends or cousins. I’m just asking here anonymously.
OK, these were your questions:

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Is 41 really risky for down and other health issues?
No, not necessarily. As stated, for example, 99% of 41-year-old mothers will not have a baby with Down syndrome.

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With all her boyfriends, not being on the pill, and not really using other protection how did she not get pregnant until she was 41?
None of us has any idea. Why don't you ask her?
 
Old 02-13-2020, 02:23 PM
 
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People’s bodies work differently. It’s certainly very possible to get pregnant at 41 and have a healthy baby.

The situation itself doesn’t sound great if you want honest opinions. People seem to think just because a woman is older that it doesn’t matter if she’s married or not but it still will affect the child depending on what happens. A 41 yr old woman being with a 28 yr old guy seems like a stretch, it’s unusual for sure and makes me wonder if this will last. When he’s 37 and she’s 50 I’d be curious to know if they’re still together. Sounds like a friends with benefits situation gone wild. I’m 41 and couldn’t imagine marrying a 28 yr old man. Just very different places in life.

Overall it never seems like a great situation to get pregnant when it’s unplanned and you’re not married. Doesn’t mean it will be a horrible situation but all you can do is wish them luck.
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