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Old 02-17-2020, 03:36 PM
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Odd to me, anyway. Thought this might interest some of you. Readers wrote in expressing their sympathy and admiration for the baffled mother, but to me, it seemed odd that the mother appeared to consider it her own fault. Maybe I'm in the wrong, but it seems to me that for most people, the old-fashioned response would have been a spanking, and the modern response would have been a child psychologist.

The Case of the Angry Daughter
She is sad but also enraged. She kicks me for not having a banana. She punches me in the stomach for not being able to find her bumpy red ball.
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Old 02-17-2020, 05:00 PM
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Meh. I'm against corporal punishment, and I'm not a parent, but I feel like there is a decided lack of discipline. I'd just start removing privileges every time she acted up and put her in time out. Expectations would be clearly expressed and meeting them would be rewarded. Drama would most certainly not be rewarded.

TBH, the kid sounds VERY smart. When my cousin came to me about his crazy-smart son when the kid was just three, we talked about how it's often very stressful for highly intelligent children when they suddenly don't know how to process things. The structure of school probably keeps her on an even keel but in an overly permissive (and perhaps sheltered?) environment she feels insecure and lashes out.

No need for a psychologist. She's a normal kid with a lot of emotions she doesn't know how to process. At that age I was just understanding death and I was terrified everyone I loved would die suddenly. Possibly the first manifestation of my anxiety I guess. OK, maybe a shrink is a good idea.
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Old 02-17-2020, 06:11 PM
Location: Wilmington NC
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This girl is a lot like my daughter. She was all sweetness and light at school...and filled with rage at home.

She didn't fight against going to school like that so I sent her. Middle school was hell, high school was hard. She clearly had ADD, anxiety and depression but wouldn't take meds.

Finally when she went to college she had a bit of a breakdown and was diagnosed with a non-specified mood disorder. She agreed to take some medication and is now functioning fairly well. I worry about her every day.
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Old 02-17-2020, 07:59 PM
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It's not about a real child, it is a story by Rivka Galchen, a Canadian-American writer.

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