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Old 03-09-2020, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Brew City
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I love it how everyone tries to justify these huge costs instead of just admitting that they are too expensive. Parents are willing to do it so it will never change, but come one most sports were never this expensive. It has turned inti a billion dollar business and they have picked up the fact that most think sports are anecessity anymore. Also, kids aren't allowed out like they used to be and require more supervisiin
These leagues have picked up on this, they aren't stupid.
Don't project your parenting on everyone else. My kids have free rein of the neighborhood. And we're in Milwaukee.

It's also up to each individual parent to decide what is too much $ and what isn't, not yours. I'll pay for my kids to play in the regular local hockey club but I'm not spending the money to put them on a AA team. That's my choice to make. I also pay for my kids to play rec soccer but they aren't interested in the full commitment required for club level or higher so we don't do it. Easy peasy.
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Old 03-09-2020, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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In your free neighborhood eutopia, who do you think will zam the ice or mow the lawn? Open the rink/court/field? Maintain the bathrooms? Maintain the equipment (both rink/court and gear)? Work the concession stands? Who will ref/ump? You either pay for these things or you have parent volunteers. Usually a mix of both. We pay for our kids to play hockey and the only volunteering we're asked to do is keep score, run the clock, or open the door for the penalty box. Hardly too much to ask. Lucky for me, my kids' teams come with a group of lovely parents who are more than happy to help.
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Don't project your parenting on everyone else. My kids have free rein of the neighborhood. And we're in Milwaukee.

It's also up to each individual parent to decide what is too much $ and what isn't, not yours. I'll pay for my kids to play in the regular local hockey club but I'm not spending the money to put them on a AA team. That's my choice to make. I also pay for my kids to play rec soccer but they aren't interested in the full commitment required for club level or higher so we don't do it. Easy peasy.

Yes to both of these.
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Old 03-09-2020, 01:54 PM
 
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How was i projecting anything? And 6es, of cpurse its up to the indivual parent, but thousand just to let a kid play a sport is too expensive.
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Old 03-09-2020, 02:28 PM
 
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There is no end to how much money that these sports will try to bilk from parents. They will even try to get parents to do free volunteer work for them, in addition to bilking them thousands of dollars for baseball, football, ice hockey, cheerleading, soccer, karate. If parents would stand up and say "enough is enough" and form their own neighborhood sports teams that were free to join, these exploitive businesses would be run into the ground.
I never felt bilked. We knew going into every sport each season that there were expenses that needed to be covered. Our kids, our choice. Neighborhood sports teams are great for exposure when kids don't really know if they have a passion, and talent, for the game, but once they do, the "everybody plays equally" becomes unfair to the kids who want to excel.

As parents, we made life-long friends in the stands, working concessions, and taking tickets. Unless you have been involved yourself, you likely can't appreciate how pleasant it is to spend your nights and weekends watching your kids have fun with people who are doing the same.
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Old 03-09-2020, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Texas
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In your free neighborhood eutopia, who do you think will zam the ice or mow the lawn? Open the rink/court/field? Maintain the bathrooms? Maintain the equipment (both rink/court and gear)? Work the concession stands? Who will ref/ump? You either pay for these things or you have parent volunteers. .
So you think it's impossible? There are already tons of these neighorhood kids sports teams already. the parents volunteer but they don't have to pay thousands of dollars for their kid to play baseball, football, etc.
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Old 03-09-2020, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I never felt bilked. We knew going into every sport each season that there were expenses that needed to be covered. Our kids, our choice. Neighborhood sports teams are great for exposure when kids don't really know if they have a passion, and talent, for the game, but once they do, the "everybody plays equally" becomes unfair to the kids who want to excel.

As parents, we made life-long friends in the stands, working concessions, and taking tickets. Unless you have been involved yourself, you likely can't appreciate how pleasant it is to spend your nights and weekends watching your kids have fun with people who are doing the same.
You didn't understand anything of what I said, but whatever.
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Old 03-09-2020, 05:54 PM
 
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You didn't understand anything of what I said, but whatever.
I think I understood you perfectly. But, whatever.
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Old 03-09-2020, 10:08 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
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We have 2 girls in competitive cheerleading which costs us thousands of dollars a year for each of them. We travel to other states, pay for hotels, food, entrance fees as a spectator, gas, etc. Not to mention the cost to actually participate monthly, the uniform, separate required tumbling class, etc. To top it off, both teams won a bid to The Summit national competition in May at Disney which will be a few thousand more. Both girls also do school cheerleading which is obviously much cheaper] however, school cheerleading and competitive cheer are completely different in nature! Next year, my oldest is going into H.S. and she will not be able to do both as it will be too much. She has to pick which one to do. She has decided to stay on the competitive team; however, my husband and I not sure we want to keep putting out the money for it. I'd honestly rather put it towards her college.

My dilemma is that both my girls truly love it. It's the only thing my younger daughter has stuck to. My oldest said that if she can't do the competitive team then she won't cheer anymore because she is not interested in cheering in high school. We can afford it, but as I said above, it's thousands of dollars and very time consuming for us. They have practice all day every Sunday, another day during the week and competitions almost every other week for 7 months. My husband wants them both to tryout for school cheer and if they don't make it then he will continue to allow them to do the competitive cheer.

My question is this...…...what do you consider too much to pay for a childs sport? If you can afford it, do you continue allowing them to do it because they love it or do you put a cap on what you will pay regardless? Also, would you allow your child to do a sport that would be very time consuming on you as well? What is your perspective on this?
Just think how much you'd have if you put all that money in a college savings plan.
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Old 03-11-2020, 06:13 AM
 
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So you think it's impossible? There are already tons of these neighorhood kids sports teams already. the parents volunteer but they don't have to pay thousands of dollars for their kid to play baseball, football, etc.
There called Rec leagues. There is a huge difference between rec and competitive leagues. Yes, the parents are volunteers in the rec leagues and they cost between $60 - $145 a season. It's the level of play and coaching that makes the difference. When you put your kid into sports, you want them to learn something about the sport and want them to continue to learn as they play every year. In a rec league that doesn't always happen. Sometimes the coaches have zero idea of what they're doing, but they're only volunteers (and the kids are supposed to be having fun) so you let it go...after all you get what you pay for.

Most rec league players (soccer is a prime example) don't make the MS/HS sports teams. The competitive league players do because the coaches are compensated because they know more about the game, they practice more than once a week and play multiple games on the weekends.
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Old 03-11-2020, 06:26 AM
 
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Just think how much you'd have if you put all that money in a college savings plan.
The same could be said for just about everything. I was often amused by the parents who question large amounts spent on children but don't question the amount they spend on their huge gas guzzling SUV's.

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