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Old 03-01-2020, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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Good for her.

It's no secret many 'parents' these days are lax on discipline and let their bratty kids do and say what they want, creating future generations of entitled narcissists.

https://www.cnn.com/2020/02/27/us/ho...rnd/index.html
That is punishment and humiliation, not discipline. The point of discipline is to teach. There are generally more effective methods to teaching/learning than humiliation. Says lazy or exasperated parent to me. Exasperated if a "one-off"; lazy if that's their usual method. And in a public restroom? Ew. Just no.
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Old 03-01-2020, 10:52 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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If I walked in a store bathroom and saw this, the LAST thing I would think would be, "Good for her." I don't understand why she's holding the younger child like a bag of potatoes. And he looks like a white child. So this other woman walks in and decides to start recording??? Social media has really screwed up people's instincts.

Regardless of what the kid is diagnosed with, if you're resorting to this, y'all all need to just go home and start over.
I have twins... Sometimes, you just have to do what you have to do too keep them under control. For a short time, they had a habit of running in opposite directions when they detected that I wasn't happy with them. I'd grab one like that so I had a free hand to try and grab the other. If you grab them as you normally would (sitting on your forearm, with them on shoulder), he would lean backward and risk dropping him on his head.

There was a reason why we traded in the side bag for a backpack shortly after... kinda hard to run with a diaper bag at your hip.

Also, I am Asian and their mother is as pale white as can be. Three boys. One twin looks like me with darker olive skin and the other is pale white. Elder son has a middle tan complexion. Don't assume. One lady assumed that one was adopted at the mall and made for a really awkward moment.
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Old 03-01-2020, 10:54 AM
 
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Kind of a bizarre way she's holding her other child, and a 10 year old boy is too old to be in the women's restroom.

I've had my kids do jumping jacks - in a fun and light spirited way - to run their sillies out, or run up and down the stairs 4 times, etc.

I'm sure this kid was bored out of his MIND in a craft store, and was doing, as the mother says, "normal 10 year old things".
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Old 03-01-2020, 10:58 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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That is punishment and humiliation.
Do you feel humiliated when you do your business in the bathroom? Why should the child feel humiliated in the same location?
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Old 03-01-2020, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I have twins... Sometimes, you just have to do what you have to do too keep them under control. For a short time, they had a habit of running in opposite directions when they detected that I wasn't happy with them. I'd grab one like that so I had a free hand to try and grab the other. If you grab them as you normally would (sitting on your forearm, with them on shoulder), he would lean backward and risk dropping him on his head.

There was a reason why we traded in the side bag for a backpack shortly after... kinda hard to run with a diaper bag at your hip.
I have twins too, and found myself in some mighty stressful situations but never did anything like this.
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Old 03-01-2020, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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Do you feel humiliated when you do your business in the bathroom? Why should the child feel humiliated in the same location?
No idea why you think the two are comparable.
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Old 03-01-2020, 12:42 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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No idea why you think the two are comparable.
They are comparable because in both cases there is an expectation of privacy. I would agree if done in front of a bunch of people in the store, it would be humiliation... Considering the location, bathroom is probably the most private place easily accessible. Any more privacy would be in the stall itself.. yuk
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Old 03-01-2020, 12:43 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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I have twins too, and found myself in some mighty stressful situations but never did anything like this.
then I question... every parent would know that carrying a toddler with one arm over shoulder fighting to get free is dangerous.
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Old 03-01-2020, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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then I question... every parent would know that carrying a toddler with one arm over shoulder fighting to get free is dangerous.
Yeah, I didn’t suggest that.
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Old 03-01-2020, 12:52 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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Yeah, I didn’t suggest that.
Then we disagree on what is considered "mighty stressful situations"...
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