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Old 03-01-2020, 12:59 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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They are comparable because in both cases there is an expectation of privacy. I would agree if done in front of a bunch of people in the store, it would be humiliation... Considering the location, bathroom is probably the most private place easily accessible. Any more privacy would be in the stall itself.. yuk
Clearly this was not a private space or it wouldn't have been recorded and shared online by strangers.

And why pushups? Why in a restroom? The whole thing is odd.
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Old 03-01-2020, 01:03 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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Clearly this was not a private space or it wouldn't have been recorded and shared online by strangers.

And why pushups? Why in a restroom? The whole thing is odd.
Restroom is a private space. Stranger violated that privacy and that shouldn't be put on the mother. I already posted that the person who took that photo should be ashamed of themselves. Restroom is the easiest accessible private space in a store.

Pushups is a form of discipline and a healthy one at that. It is used in military schools and by athletic coaches. It is very possible the child is an athlete in school and this follows along lines of his coach's disciplinary program. My son's Renshi has a similar program n place for my elder son who has been enrolled in the local Karate dojo since he was a toddler. He works with parents outside of the dojo on all things related to children and discipline. Every parent works with him on different approaches.. much involves physical exercises.

Discipline consistently (in and out of dojo) and in timely manner.

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Old 03-01-2020, 02:01 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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We'll have to agree to disagree on the appropriateness of this approach in this venue.
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Old 03-01-2020, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Then we disagree on what is considered "mighty stressful situations"...
I really don’t know what you’re arguing. The mother in the photo created this situation.

I didn’t let toddler twins run free in stores. They went in either a stroller or a shopping cart or they didn’t go.
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Old 03-01-2020, 04:19 PM
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Location: NJ
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I make.my 5 year old do "wall sits" as punishment. He knows right from wrong and it sure beats hitting him. And it hasnt hurt him yet. I have no issue with this, except maybe a 10 year old being a bit old in the womens room
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Old 03-01-2020, 04:38 PM
 
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I agree.

If I walked in a store bathroom and saw this, the LAST thing I would think would be, "Good for her." I don't understand why she's holding the younger child like a bag of potatoes. And he looks like a white child. So this other woman walks in and decides to start recording??? Social media has really screwed up people's instincts.

Regardless of what the kid is diagnosed with, if you're resorting to this, y'all all need to just go home and start over.
I hate the recording the kids punishments for the whole world to see, not against discipline, but not humiliating a child.
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Old 03-01-2020, 04:58 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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I really don’t know what you’re arguing. The mother in the photo created this situation.

I didn’t let toddler twins run free in stores. They went in either a stroller or a shopping cart or they didn’t go.
Of course I don't let them run free..

Well one thing is for sure.... they learned very quickly to stay by my side. You can use a stroller as crutch.. that's your choice. Not everyone chooses to cage them in a stroller because you don't want to deal with it.

The same goes for parents that use ipad/tablets as a crutch because they don't want to deal with it.
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Old 03-01-2020, 05:00 PM
 
Location: San Diego
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I think it's gross to do in the bathroom.

I'm old school, though. If you're going to discipline your child, wait until you get home. They'll have the waiting and anticipation on top of the punishment itself.

Most of the time when I see a parent yelling at their kid in public, it's the parent's fault, not the kid's fault. Don't take your kid shopping when they're hungry, tired, etc. Don't let them run wild and only intervene when an employee says something. Don't be so busy with your phone that you're ignoring your child.
Mom is that you?



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Old 03-01-2020, 05:00 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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We'll have to agree to disagree on the appropriateness of this approach in this venue.
Sure.. funny how you haven't offered alternative suggestions.. just judgements.
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Old 03-01-2020, 05:56 PM
 
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Sure.. funny how you haven't offered alternative suggestions.. just judgements.
It's not her kid to offer an alternative. Fair enough?

This thread allows for humanity to have it's say on this punishment. And not have to give a parent lesson.
If I disagree with this style it's because I know better then to treat a loved one in a demeaning way.

When you know better, you do better. And I didn't have to do push-ups to learn that lesson. Fwiw,punishment is not discipline.
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