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Old 03-05-2020, 11:35 PM
 
Location: Tijuana Exurbs
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Wow I didn’t know this would take off!

That includes tie snug and shirt tucked in. What he does after that is up to him. He said that the tie was uncomfortable. I don’t know if there is much credence to that?
Ties are uncomfortable. Every grown man knows this.

Still, since he's a growing boy, check the tightness of his shirt collar. It could have gotten snug while you weren't looking. Even if it isn't snug, get him some shirts that are 1/2 inch bigger in the neck than what he has. Then, even if the tie is snug, the collar won't be tight.
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Old 03-06-2020, 08:04 AM
 
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Make him do it.
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Old 03-06-2020, 09:24 AM
 
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Make him do it.
Ha I pretty much did. Swung him by the barber yesterday. And this morning he came down to breakfast shirt tucked in and tie snug.
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Old 03-06-2020, 10:09 AM
 
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There are things not worth fighting over...tucking in shirts and hair length are well within that category in my world at least. Kids want to express themselves, they want to feel some semblance of control over their personal appearance. If the school has a problem with it they'll deal with it. And no...the road to jail does not begin with not wanting to tuck in your shirt.
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Old 03-06-2020, 12:00 PM
 
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My son goes to a school that has a fairly strict uniform...blazer/tie/slacks/dress shoes everyday. Every morning it seems I have having to tell him tuck in his shirt or tighten/straighten his tie before he goes in. He constantly grumbles about it, and then when I pick him up it’s all untucked again.

The school also has rules regarding his hair he’s not following. The school says it has to be short...off of collar/off of ears/out of eyes. He’s always been pretty good about going to the barber, but lately he keeps putting it off and coming up with excuses. His hair is definitely out of dress code by now.

How do I get him to follow these rules? I know it’s strict but he needs to know the rules also apply to him? I see all the other students in the morning and they seem to have no problem tucking in shirts/getting haircuts.
These requirements, while de rigeur for some private schools, are atypical for most children to wear on a daily basis. Seeing this not required on television and other areas may cause some resentment building up.

Was private school your dream, or his?
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Old 03-06-2020, 07:35 PM
 
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There are things not worth fighting over...tucking in shirts and hair length are well within that category in my world at least. Kids want to express themselves, they want to feel some semblance of control over their personal appearance. If the school has a problem with it they'll deal with it. And no...the road to jail does not begin with not wanting to tuck in your shirt.
Maybe not. But I know someone who DID end up in jail. An intelligent student who used to grow his hair out, slightly, and wear an untucked shirt once in a while (before it was in style).
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Old 03-06-2020, 10:52 PM
 
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Yeah, I think it’s a crazy stretch to think not tucking your shirt in or getting a haircut will land you in jail. But i just want him to be presentable and follow the rules.
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Old 03-07-2020, 07:30 AM
 
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If you can't control him at fourteen - what are you going to do when he is 18 and has a driver's license?

You are his parents. You provide him with a home, clothing and private school tuition. He owe you respect.
Why would anyone be trying to "control" an 18-year-old adult?
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