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Help her to find another passion, something that mainly just requires her to engage. Like at least, rather than being intrusive with your daughters, just working on bringing more potential choices to them in a normal natural not-so-awkward way, or presenting some useful info that can persuade them in a subtle way. Not really the best things I think she could be doing for a passion, but maybe a bit better than what she's doing atm?
My dad used to be a bit like your wife. He believes that a single life is as harmful as smoking. And he was tempted to find me a husband himself. Truth is, even after I met someone I really love, he's still not so satisfied cos my partner is not his ideal in-law option and also because we haven't got married yet. Maybe also because he couldn't approve most of my decisions, a mix of reasons. Luckily he kinda has something to focus on in his life, so most of the time I feel undisturbed by him. Your daughters are lucky to have you. Also, maybe it's also the time to have a closer look at your relationship with her? Maybe both of you are too busy being parents and need to focus more on being partners? I don't mean to offend you, just figure it might explain things. All the best.