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Old 04-02-2020, 03:43 AM
 
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I live in Ireland and here it's quite common for parents to be okay with kids cursing (well not kids but teens/young adults). It seems though to be a strong taboo in America in general. Many young adults won't even curse in front of their parents cause they see it as disrespectful.

Do you think it is?
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:53 AM
 
Location: bold new city of the south
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I live in Ireland and here it's quite common for parents to be okay with kids cursing (well not kids but teens/young adults). It seems though to be a strong taboo in America in general. Many young adults won't even curse in front of their parents cause they see it as disrespectful.

Do you think it is?

It is quite disrespectful, rude, and indicative of ignorance and insensitivity towards others. I live in the South and my children and grandchildren use yes sir and yes ma'am when speaking to adults. If you don't respect yourself, how can you respect others?
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:56 AM
 
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How is swearing disrespectful to yourself?

Different families, different attitudes. I don't mind a hell or damn here and there. Not fond of the f word.
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Old 04-02-2020, 07:49 AM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Wilmington NC
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I'm a single mom of two teens and I kinda gave up on censoring us when my youngest went to high school.

I still drew the line at hostility directed TOWARDS others. You can't call names.

But to me, it helped keep open the lines of communication at a time when their father was trying to be all strict and conservative. He remarried and has younger step kids, and he and his new wife attempted to lay a lot of ground rules. Not to say we undermined them. IMHO My kids know their audience and adjust accordingly. They are very articulate.

I'm a teacher and so is one of my daughters so now we mostly have fun substitutes. I was just thinking that several weeks of staying home alone with an obnoxious dog is going to turn me back into a potty mouth.

To the OP, there are plenty of Americans that don't have a problem with kids swearing. Our TV programs are ridiculously sanitized and not particularly realistic.
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:17 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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No, I did not! DH and I never use profanity or gutter language, and they did not either. In fact they still don’t use profanity around us. Our grands don’t either.
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Tyler, TX, born + raised SF Bay
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My kids are too young right now. And while it’s an interesting question my wife and I haven’t really talked about yet, she and I are both potty mouths, and probably by the time they hit high school, we’ll probably just be “whatever” about it. We have a pretty liberal parenting style, anyway.
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Old 04-02-2020, 05:51 PM
 
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I live in Ireland and here it's quite common for parents to be okay with kids cursing (well not kids but teens/young adults). It seems though to be a strong taboo in America in general. Many young adults won't even curse in front of their parents cause they see it as disrespectful.

Do you think it is?

I find it completely unacceptable--even for adults to do in polite company.
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Old 04-02-2020, 07:44 PM
 
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Trash language doesn't look good on anyone, teens or their parents.
Using curse words in regular conversation, especially the F word, makes the user look lazy, uneducated (even if they are educated), clueless of the effect of their language on others or deliberately provocative.
I never use profanity in conversation, however I have been known to curse to myself in situations of extreme frustration, usually when I'm alone.
It doesn't make me "cool" or hip or anything else but a person using words considered rude and coarse.
To a lot of Americans the extreme use of the F word by Brits and people like Gordon Ramsay seems slightly bizarre.
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Old 04-03-2020, 06:48 AM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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I don't allow it as a general thing, but if an occasional cuss word is let fly accidentally or during a time of high emotion (a long as it's not directed AT someone, like calling someone a name) to me that's not the time to make a big deal out of it.
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