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Old 04-04-2020, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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He should be banned from your house and banned from associating with your child.
I agree. He is a thief and a liar. OP, he stabbed you in the back after you had been very nice to him.
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Old 04-05-2020, 05:39 AM
 
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You acted appropriately but you shouldn't be out of the money. Tell the parents you expect restitution or will be pressing charges. It will be up to them to provide it to you or see that their sons provide it. The sons can sell items on e-bay if necessary. Whether they have the financial means or not, it is important for their sons to know that you aren't giving them a "get out of jail free card". What they did has serious consequences.
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Old 04-05-2020, 05:44 AM
 
Location: Wilmington NC
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That's funny, in your thread from January 2020 you are dating some "girl" (not even a woman ) but here you are a grown-up with a teenage kid. See https://www.city-data.com/forum/rela...l#post57014775 .

Gotta love the lies you can tell on an anonymous forum.
omg yes.......
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Old 04-05-2020, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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You live in NYC which has been under a stay at home order for weeks. Even if this was true, why is some non-family member even in your house?

Looking to spread COVID 19 and other made up stuff?
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Old 04-05-2020, 11:04 AM
 
Location: NJ
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My son's best friend of 5 years stays at our house all the time. He spends summers here at our house (has his own room), goes on vacation with us, even has a key to our house, etc. He is basically our #2 child. Him and my son are 14 and freshmen in high school. They are inseperable. He has always been very appreciative to my wife and I, very well behaved, hugs us all the time to say thanks, just a nice all around kid and has never really been a bother as him and my son just play video games. His parents are not exactly upper crust of society but I was taught by my grandmother I have no right to pass judgement on others.

Over the past 2 weeks when we've gone out he's had a lot of money on him, and has been spending hundreds of dollars at stores and online. Naturally, when I see a 14 year old with a wad of hundreds and twenties in his wallet I'm concerned. I asked him where he got all the cash, and he told me his mother has been giving it to him. I knew that was bs as no parent would give a kid his age that kind of money and his parents only make min wage. I called his mother who confirmed she has not given him any money.

Today I go into my master bedroom closet where I had $1,500 hidden under a folded blanket and wouldn't ya know, only $200 is there. To make a long story short, my son's best friend stole the money and had been for some time. Burglarizing my master bedroom snooping around looking for things to steal.

I confronted him, he admitted to it. He also said he told his older brother about the $ and the brother would come by and they'd do a hand off in my driveway. I called his parents who came and picked him up. They gave him an ass whipping. I took his key and told him he is never to come to our house again. And I'm out $1,300. I feel totally used and violated; almost in shock.

Was I right in throwing him out of my house and banning him from returning? The kid sent my son text messages and is now kind of playing the victim. This is a youngster that my family spent almost every day with for 5 years. My fiance says he's probably been stealing for years and it's always the one you least expect. Parents here what would you do in my shoes? Would you let the kid back in the house? Associate with your kid?
It never occurred to you to look at your money stash when you 1st saw him with it?

Even though you got the key back, you really need to change the locks. He and his brother probably made a copy of your key.

You really need a separate lock on your bedroom door with any teen around, even your own. Get yourself a lock box too for stuff like that. If you own a home, consider installing a ground safe.
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Old 04-05-2020, 11:47 AM
 
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I wouldn't hesitate to file a police report and charges.

When we built a new home and were moving in...the teen (plus a couple of friends) from the house behind us cut through our yard and stole my purse out of our vehicle. They then proceeded to try and use my credit cards (had been reported stolen). Police were contacted by store and a chase took place. They were caught, charged and had to pay restitution.

Family background of kids. Pretty intact family units and parental occupations of kids charged...ranged from a VP of a manufacturing facility to teachers to police officers...etc.

Letting this incident slide with no accountability is a no no in my opinion.
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Old 04-05-2020, 11:56 AM
 
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My son was upset but understood. He is almost 15 and has other friends now. I’m trying to get a feel from other parents what they would’ve done if they were in my shoes. This was an off a lot of money and the kid actually went looking to burglarize.
How long ago was this and what made you post it today? Who is the "we" after your post in January?
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Old 04-05-2020, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Aliso Viejo, CA
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My son's best friend of 5 years stays at our house all the time. He spends summers here at our house (has his own room), goes on vacation with us, even has a key to our house, etc. He is basically our #2 child. Him and my son are 14 and freshmen in high school. They are inseperable. He has always been very appreciative to my wife and I, very well behaved, hugs us all the time to say thanks, just a nice all around kid and has never really been a bother as him and my son just play video games. His parents are not exactly upper crust of society but I was taught by my grandmother I have no right to pass judgement on others.

Over the past 2 weeks when we've gone out he's had a lot of money on him, and has been spending hundreds of dollars at stores and online. Naturally, when I see a 14 year old with a wad of hundreds and twenties in his wallet I'm concerned. I asked him where he got all the cash, and he told me his mother has been giving it to him. I knew that was bs as no parent would give a kid his age that kind of money and his parents only make min wage. I called his mother who confirmed she has not given him any money.

Today I go into my master bedroom closet where I had $1,500 hidden under a folded blanket and wouldn't ya know, only $200 is there. To make a long story short, my son's best friend stole the money and had been for some time. Burglarizing my master bedroom snooping around looking for things to steal.

I confronted him, he admitted to it. He also said he told his older brother about the $ and the brother would come by and they'd do a hand off in my driveway. I called his parents who came and picked him up. They gave him an ass whipping. I took his key and told him he is never to come to our house again. And I'm out $1,300. I feel totally used and violated; almost in shock.

Was I right in throwing him out of my house and banning him from returning? The kid sent my son text messages and is now kind of playing the victim. This is a youngster that my family spent almost every day with for 5 years. My fiance says he's probably been stealing for years and it's always the one you least expect. Parents here what would you do in my shoes? Would you let the kid back in the house? Associate with your kid?

First paragraph, it's your wife and you. Last paragraph, your fiancé says.

So you have a wife AND a fiancé ?


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That's funny, in your thread from January 2020 you are dating some "girl" . . . but here you are a grown-up with a teenage kid. . . . .
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Old 04-05-2020, 02:08 PM
 
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This thief would never be allowed in my house again. I have no tiime for someone who steals. You may have escaped having a bigger loss in the future. Systematic theft like that is not a one time deal.
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Old 04-05-2020, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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My questions is...….why are you and your son around this individual right now anyway? Haven't you heard there's a virus going around and supposed to be social distancing?


Stealing is not tolerated in my house. This kid would no longer be welcome and I would let his parents know!

NM, just saw this is a TROLL post! Lol
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