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Old Today, 03:17 PM
 
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Hello parents.

I'm new here hope this is the right forum and thread.

Recently my wife and I been fighting and arguing alot recently maybe like once or twice a week sometimes every few days. We been together for almost 8 years!
We would argue here and there but nothing serious and I was busy with college and work, so we didn't spent that much time together till the past few years. We have an eight month old. Who's alot of work and high needs baby. Since we started parenting it's been consistent fights and arguments and now she's pregnant again. Recently she been talking about separation and I'm not on the same page as she is and bringing up co parenting. I don't want divorce or separation I'm trying to make it work but it's really hard. I don't want to force a relationship and a
unhealthy one. We don't want to fight in front of our son and be stressed while she's pregnant. I want to spent spend every minute with kids and raise them from day one.

Any advice on what to do or anyone been through this before? Does it workout at the end should we keep trying?

Thanks everyone!
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Old Today, 08:59 PM
 
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Do either of you have parents who had successful happy marriages, who modeled for you how to do it?

It sounds like you could use family counseling, since you have a special needs baby and another baby on the way. This is very hard.

There is a strategy of arguing, for married couples, that is taught in PreCana premarital counseling. While you're arguing, imagine yourselves holding hands (or actually hold hands, which is best but unusual) and make the goal of your argument about coming together in agreement and harmony. Don't make your argument about tearing each other apart, but rather, about finding mutual ground as the goal.

Best wishes. Parenting is HARD, and if neither of you have parents who modeled for you how to navigate a lifelong relationship successfully, you're even at further disadvantage.
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