Do you let your kids dictate plans?

[C24L]

Originally Posted by Janay755

I don’t have kids but I know when I was a kid and I was told a time I had to be ready, I was or I didn’t go. Now when we make plans with my friends and their kids go it revolves around them. They are teens and my friend will always say she has to check with them on the restaurant. I might suggest one and she will say one of her daughters doesn’t like it. We will have plans to meet at noon for lunch and she will text me and ask if we can change to 12:30 because one of her kids isn’t up yet. Wouldn’t you wake them and tell them be ready or your not going? As they are getting older they don’t always go with us but when they do it always has to be a restaurant they like and a time that works for them.

im not gonna let my kids dictate plans even when they are teens.

[Dave_n_Tenn]

Not every battle needs to be won, but the war must be. Having raised 4 kids to adults as they got older they have more input, but I'd limit the choices... it's never EVER gonna be a negotiation.

3 boys (meat eaters) and a girl (vegetarian) we always made it work. Boys are WAY easier after puberty. Girls are way easier before puberty.

I won the war... they all are educated, with good jobs, live on their own and still love me. Ta-Dah!

[oregonwoodsmoke]

Yes and no. It depends upon what the plans are. Sometimes the kids get an input in what we do, and sometimes they don't.


Occasionally it is "would you like to do this?" or "what is your schedule?" Other times , it is "be ready at time o'clock because we are going to do whatever."