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Well I mean I think they’re going to have sex regardless
People always say this, but it really isn't always the case.
Teens have hormones, sure, but they aren't ALL uncontrollable horndogs. Quite a few of them are actually conflicted when it comes down to having sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend.
IMHO, allowing sleepovers removes obstacles that exist for very good reason, and gives kids a green light when they often would be relieved to see a red light.
Teenagers not having sex would be really, really weird, so if you decide to allow the sleep-over, make sure you talk to both of them about birth control, and provide a supply of condoms.
Teenagers not having sex would be really, really weird, so if you decide to allow the sleep-over, make sure you talk to both of them about birth control, and provide a supply of condoms.
I don’t think it’s that weird. I didn’t have sex until 22 and so did a lot of my friends. I think a lot more teens are actually not having sex then are… At least in my day. Maybe it’s different now
I don’t think it’s that weird. I didn’t have sex until 22 and so did a lot of my friends. I think a lot more teens are actually not having sex then are… At least in my day. Maybe it’s different now
Well, in my day, every guy was getting laid every weekend....twice on Saturday....and every girl was a virgin.
Well I mean I think they’re going to have sex regardless
If you are old enough to sleep over and have sex with a BF or GF, you're old enough for one of you to have your own place. Otherwise, what's wrong with having sleepovers and sex at home at 14 or 15 or 16?
Regarding the law, it probably varies by state. "For example, in New Jersey, having sex with an underage person is sexual assault only if the actor is four or more years older. Thus, a 22-year-old who has intercourse with a 15-year-old commits a felony, but an 18-year-old who does the same thing does nothing unlawful."
If you are old enough to sleep over and have sex with a BF or GF, you're old enough for one of you to have your own place. Otherwise, what's wrong with having sleepovers and sex at home at 14 or 15 or 16?
Because 18 is an adult. Seventeen? I guess that depends on which side of 17 your on.
Anyway thats only my opinion. If one is an adult at 18, one is an adult period. Now if your objection is because of legal binding marriage or promise of such thats a different story.
I don't think you are an adult if you are hooking up in a bedroom in your parents house. You are still a child and being treated as one.
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Because 18 is an adult. Seventeen? I guess that depends on which side of 17 your on.
Anyway thats only my opinion. If one is an adult at 18, one is an adult period. Now if your objection is because of legal binding marriage or promise of such thats a different story.
Yes my husband will be having THAT conversation with him. Truthfully if it were my kid, boy or girl, I would not allow it ... but my husband says he’d rather have her sleep here than him sleep there.
As its my husband’s son, I’m letting him decide what he thinks is best ... I was just wondering what u all thought. My parents did not allow it.
my parents did not either. And so I had sex at the most creative spaces. We were too tall for a lot of car sex so we did it everywhere else where we could be undisturbed for a few minutes.
If they are at your house at least you know where they are and they are somewhat under control. I am not sure what happens if they get spotted by cops if they are somewhere in public.
I probably would, but it would depend on the son, his maturity and responsibility, etc. I mean if they are already sexually active they will probably be having sex, whether she spends the night or not. I'd probably view the sleeping over simply as a way to keep the young lady from having to make a long drive too late at night. Separate rooms of course, probably put him in a public space, like the couch.
The couch would be good or a blow up mattress in my room lol
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OTOH if he's an immature, irresponsible rutting hound dog, not so much, lol.
Agree
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If they want to have sex they will have sex and there is nothing you can do. If you dont allow it in your house, they will do it in the car, in the bushes, in your backyard, at a friends house.
You have the power here to make sure they have a bed available and use birth control instead of creating a baby in the alley.
Agree. All they need is 5 minutes of alone time. The parent could be taking a shower while they sneak off for a quickie.
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Well I mean I think they’re going to have sex regardless
Probably.
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Yes my husband will be having THAT conversation with him. Truthfully if it were my kid, boy or girl, I would not allow it ... but my husband says he’d rather have her sleep here than him sleep there.
As its my husband’s son, I’m letting him decide what he thinks is best ... I was just wondering what u all thought. My parents did not allow it.
Your hub should explain to him that even if the girl is on the pill that he needs to bag it anyway because there are girls that like to forget to take it, they end up getting pregnant for whatever reason. Girls have done this forever, getting pregnant because the guy was going to break up with her or whatever.
I also had a talk with my son about girls that like to put holes in condoms for the same reason.
My son always made sure he had condoms and that the girl didn't know where he kept them. He's 35 now, has not had any surprises.
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