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you need an actual legal agreement regarding what you will be obligated and responsible for, and what the biological parents will. That involves "parental" decision-making for the minor, as well as financial obligations.
Hello, my wife and I want to have our 12-years old newphew come to stay with us for three years. We will take care him as our own child. His parents will have to move out of city for short period of time due to job related and he does not want to go. Based on this situation, what legal requirement do I need to pursue? Do I need to complete any free form and get notatized or the power of attorney for minor or do I have to get the lawyer involved? I am avoiding to spend any cost if possible. Thanks in advance for your recommendations.
Don't do it if you're wanting to "avoiding to spend any cost possible"...you're opening a can of worms unless you're willing to "take care of him as our own child"..and that includes monetarily as well as emotionally.(whether parents send money or not). It's gotta be that or nothing for it to work.
What have the boys parents offered to you to support their son for those three years?
Have they discussed this with you at all?
We've cared for two children for other parents. One for 4 years, the other for 2.Both times until the parents regained stability in their lives. We received NO money or anything else for caring for these children, nor did we ask for it....thus, no problems.
We did it for the childs sake, nothing more....though it sounds to me in OP's situation its more about catering to a 12 year olds wants than his actual needs.
temporary legal guardianship. Make sure that the school district will accept it. Make sure that he has health insurance. Have the parents fill out the one for your state, and get it notarized.
Hello, my wife and I want to have our 12-years old newphew come to stay with us for three years. We will take care him as our own child. His parents will have to move out of city for short period of time due to job related and he does not want to go. Based on this situation, what legal requirement do I need to pursue? Do I need to complete any free form and get notatized or the power of attorney for minor or do I have to get the lawyer involved? I am avoiding to spend any cost if possible. Thanks in advance for your recommendations.
So many Red Flags, so little time.
Hmmm, the parents have to move out of the city "for a short time" and they want you to raise their child for "three years" ???
And, this is all because the 12 year old "does not want to go" with his parents ???
And, you want to "avoid" spending any money, but "will care for him as your own child" ???
Maybe, this is a reasonable and logical solution, but it really does not sound like that from what you posted.
I'd definitely have an attorney looking over my shoulder in that position.
That’s a very difficult age to move away at. Stability during those years is important.
I didn’t have stability during middle and high school and it was exceptionally difficult for me because I had trouble fitting in being kinda nerdy and new all the time. I went to like 3 different middle schools and two different high schools and majority of the time I was miserable.
Hmmm, the parents have to move out of the city "for a short time" and they want you to raise their child for "three years" ???
And, this is all because the 12 year old "does not want to go" with his parents ???
And, you want to "avoid" spending any money, but "will care for him as your own child" ???
Maybe, this is a reasonable and logical solution, but it really does not sound like that from what you posted.
This could make sense if it's a temporary move for a job, or to care for one of their aging parents, etc. If he doesn't want to leave his school/friends (especially not temporarily) or something else important, it could make sense (for all we know, he's in a gifted-and-talented school he can't get there, or a special music school, or something; OP doesn't say).
Yes, all other things being equal, it seems a bit odd to me, but if the parents are okay with it and OP is willing to do it, why not?
I agree with everyone that talking to a lawyer is a good idea, though. As well as thinking about an planning for any contingency-- anything from how much free rein OP has to discipline the kid (and what's to be done if a really serious disciplinary problem comes up), to what happens if the parents have to stay longer than three years for some reason or something happens to OP and they can no longer host the kid.
Seriously, OP, I would get everything on paper and signed. People get really funny about their money and their kids, and I wouldn't want to take a chance on either if I had to take care of someone else's, so I'd try to eliminate as much possible liability as I could.
I took care of a niece for 4 1/2 years. Technically, the school does not have to take just a power of attorney for enrollment. They will ask for the address of the legal guardians. We went through an attorney and it was definitely not cheap, but it was the right thing to do. However, the legal parent was out of country. A child is never going to end being cheap.
That’s a very difficult age to move away at. Stability during those years is important.
I didn’t have stability during middle and high school and it was exceptionally difficult for me because I had trouble fitting in being kinda nerdy and new all the time. I went to like 3 different middle schools and two different high schools and majority of the time I was miserable.
Just food for thought.
You dont consider being raised by people other than your parents instability?
Lots of families relocate because of employment. This whole thing sounds.....WEIRD!
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