Do You Have Any Advice for Parents of Grown Kids Who Stop Speaking to Each Other?

[veuvegirl]

While to may be hurtful to you, it isn’t about you and your feelings. My sister and I haven’t spoken for almost three years. She sent me a hateful email about how horrible of a person I am.

At the time I was under a tremendous amount of stress. My husband underemployed and living out of state. I was working 13 hour days 6 days a week. We were barely able to make bills. I was traveling all over the country almost every week.

Needless to say, she knew none of that, but proceeded to tell me how horrible I was for not visiting our mom, she didn’t want to hear excuses, blah, blah blah.

I told her what was going on in my life and she needed to step the **** off. Not to mention O had a trip to see my mom in a few weeks. She never apologized and we haven’t spoken since.

I don’t need that energy in my life. She has always been the most selfish and self-centered person I have ever known. When my mom fell and broke her arm she didn’t want to be bothered for driving her to the ER. My mom had to hire someone to take her. I flew up to take care of her. Whenever my mom asked for help my sister would bemoan the request because she had to drive 30 minutes and it was too much to ask.

Sorry, but it will take a miracle to get us to be “friends” again.

[bbtondo]

I don't believe most things that are said about one group of people compared to another group. Sure you can pick and choose in those groups to prove an opinion. I just try to be open minded about things and do what I feel is right for me.