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You are going to take a 17 year old on a vacation where you are going to force him to stay inside the hotel room with a babysitter the entire time?
I say this with genuine concern but you should look into family counseling. This is not an appropriate scenario and isn't going to give you the results you are hoping for.
My son is seventeen and will be repeating his junior year of school. He has received all Fs and he is grounded for the entire summer. This means:
- No TV
- No Computer
- No Video Games
- No Desserts
- No door
- No iPhone
- He will be allowed to come with us on our beach vacation, but he must stay inside the hotel room for the entirety of the trip with no access to the TV. We have arranged a babysitter with the hotel.
I know this year has been very hard for students due to the pandemic, but that is NO EXCUSE for my son to slack off and fail all of his classes.
This is not the way to go about this!!
I have a 17 year old son. I would never treat him like this. How awful!
How about helping him figure out what the problem is. What if he is getting bullied at school, you never know.
If he hates academics and is truly awful at it maybe he could take his GED and then go to trade school.
Your son is only a year or less from legal adulthood. Don't you think it might be a better idea to help him get back on track than to practically torture him until he is old enough to escape?
I feel like I've seen this exact post (or a paraphrase) on reddit or somewhere (the door did it for me. And no deserts alhough that alone isn't severe) and it was a complete joke. I do hope my troll radar (trolldar? tradar?) is working.
I feel like I've seen this exact post (or a paraphrase) on reddit or somewhere (the door did it for me. And no deserts alhough that alone isn't severe) and it was a complete joke. I do hope my troll radar (trolldar? tradar?) is working.
I agree, highly suspect.
On the door though, when my Daughter was about 10 years old she just wouldn't keep her bedroom tidy. But of course, loved her privacy. The threat of door removal was a good motivator for her until she didn't believe the threat.
2 days without a bedroom door resulted in a quick turnaround and she has maintained that behaviour in the subsequent 7 years.
My son is seventeen and will be repeating his junior year of school. He has received all Fs and he is grounded for the entire summer. This means:
- No TV
- No Computer
- No Video Games
- No Desserts
- No door
- No iPhone
- He will be allowed to come with us on our beach vacation, but he must stay inside the hotel room for the entirety of the trip with no access to the TV. We have arranged a babysitter with the hotel.
I know this year has been very hard for students due to the pandemic, but that is NO EXCUSE for my son to slack off and fail all of his classes.
I agree with everyone else, your punishment is way too harsh. You're really not parenting him when you take everything away from him. You'd be making him hate you. I'll be shocked if he doesn't run away. He could also develop huge anger issues if he doesn't already have them. I'll also be shocked if he doesn't go and quit school because in my state, he could quit at 16 without a parents signature.
Online school has been tough for most kids. If I had to do it, I'm not sure if I could. I wonder if your son has learning issues like me.
Weren't you keeping up with his grades during the year?
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Originally Posted by Blues4evr
How about summer school and summer job, keep him busy, yard work, if he proves reliable and hard working, release the restrictions a little.
Totally agree that having him get a job to learn responsibility is a great idea.
Your son is only a year or less from legal adulthood. Don't you think it might be a better idea to help him get back on track than to practically torture him until he is old enough to escape?
Yeah, agree. Being so strict is only going to push him away. He obviously needs help getting on track. Perhaps maybe put him into some sort of enrichment camp/program over the summer? Make him get a job? Do chores around the house? Encourage responsibility? He might not be cut out for school, perhaps learn a trade?
I’m not going to send him off to trade school just so that he can work a minimum wage job for the rest of his life and have to still live with us for the next ten years. But, he’s already blown his chances of ever attending college or university.
How about summer school and summer job, keep him busy, yard work, if he proves reliable and hard working, release the restrictions a little.
I agree with this 100%!! You should keep him busy and get him into summer school to see if he can make up some of the classes he failed as opposed to giving him nothing to do as punishment. Idle minds are the devil's workshop so taking everything away and making him sit in a hotel room while on vacation isn't the best idea.
As a parent, I audibly gasped when I read the OP but I realize the pandemic was hard on kids being forced to learn virtually and we all had to shift gears and adjust to a weird new normal. Not being face-to-face in the classroom affected kids more than the school system realizes but I'm hopeful they'll be back in the classroom in the fall.
I know my kid is a natural slacker so this year I hounded her to make sure assignments were turned in on time and that she was prepared for tests by making practice exams and helping her study. It wasn't easy for my family but we made it through this crazy school year in one piece.
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