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I don't have kids, but it is a question I've wondered about after seeing several friends raise kids. It doesn't seem possible to not favor one kid over others, not that you'd do so in an obvious way but certainly internally.
I mean kids are unique individuals with their own personalities and quirks and it seems logical that you would connect better with one vs another.
Please, don't let this become a thread about how your parents treated your sister like a princess and to this day she gets away with everything. I am posing the question from a parental perspective.
I have two kids and love them equally. I don't and never could love one more. They are both individuals, and I love what's makes them....them. They both have great things about them and then things that drive me nuts...
I love my kids equally but like them at different levels.
I will admit that I no longer like my 12-year-old. All she does is yell at me and call me names and hit me and break things when she doesn't get what she wants. I do not like being around her and I am relieved that she is going to live with her father. That being said, I love her and it really saddens me how mean and destructive she has become and if her attitude and behaviour toward me ever changes I will welcome her back with open arms.
My younger two children I like but yes I do have a favourite which is my youngest. She is so loving and cuddly and caring and wants to be around me all the time unlike my middle child who is too cool to be around me now. I think this may be why in a lot of families everyone says the baby is the favourite. In my own family we all knew my youngest sibling was the favourite too.
I read once that parents favor different children at different stages of the children's lives. Which makes sense. It would be easier to favor a five year old over a child in its terrible twos. I think most people try to hide that they have favorites.
My mother said she loved us all equally, but I know I was the favorite!
I read once that parents favor different children at different stages of the children's lives. Which makes sense. It would be easier to favor a five year old over a child in its terrible twos. I think most people try to hide that they have favorites.
My mother said she loved us all equally, but I know I was the favorite!
I don't have kids, but it is a question I've wondered about after seeing several friends raise kids. It doesn't seem possible to not favor one kid over others, not that you'd do so in an obvious way but certainly internally.
I mean kids are unique individuals with their own personalities and quirks and it seems logical that you would connect better with one vs another.Not really, that's a little like saying well you must like cake better than ice cream, but really you like them both equally and it doesn't matter which one you get for dessert.
Please, don't let this become a thread about how your parents treated your sister like a princess and to this day she gets away with everything. I am posing the question from a parental perspective.
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Originally Posted by Riley09swb
I have two kids and love them equally. I don't and never could love one more. They are both individuals, and I love what's makes them....them. They both have great things about them and then things that drive me nuts...
If I misbehaved or had that teenage attitude, my mother would say "I will always love you but I don't like you very much right now".
I can't imagine there is any way to quantify loving someone more. I also don't believe that you would actually love a child more simply because you get along better with them, have the same personality, sense of humour or interests. None of that is rooted in parental love, IMO.
Yes. And an accident. The Best accident ever. I was much younger than the others. There was a 20 year gap between me and the oldest. However, I was also the sweetest child ever and would have been the favorite no matter what!
Like is a different story though. I think my husband likes all his kids differently, has more in common with one, respects the heck out of what another has accomplished, feels more protective of another....
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