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Yeah, it's tough. I completely see now why some parents push their kids into sports teams that take up ALL their free time! Probably not ideal, but it's one solution.
Are his friends also really into their phones/computers?
I had to do a work escort today (security, doncha know?) so I took my diary along with me. Where most people, I have noticed, spend their idle time staring into their phones, I write in my diary. Further, I am trying to break the hold the computer world has on me by writing more. For all the hours I might spend chasing fantasy on the computer, I can, if I get really writing, experience that in a few pages and lots of pen strokes.
I write and then, find pictures to paste in to reflect my thoughts AND ...... transport myself into that world for a half a minute or so. After all, I am already there since my thoughts are alined with the picture.
80's baby here. We had some video game things but not til later in my childhood and we didn't have anything handheld like gameboy that we could take places.
Nowadays it's freakin crazy how much time kids spend on their electronics. My stepson plays from the moment he gets up until the moment he goes to bed (if he even goes to bed @ all). THis is not a reflection of bad parenting, but just want to caveat that neither me nor my husband raised him (he lives with his mom and is visiting us for a month, he's 12).
That said, it is constant. ALL THE TIME. And my husband will try & get him to do other things but he has no interest. When my parents would have their friends over, they would expect us to hang out with & make conversation with the friends or play a board game or something with them. Nowadays it seems like children just hibernate in their rooms with their games now.
It's such a sad way to grow up.
I don't necessarily know if it would have made a difference if we raised him, but I would never allow my child to play on electronics all day. You need to have friends and play outside.
Maybe I'm just old-fashioned. Meh.
Who the hell visits for a month? Do you have other activities available? While I also think being constantly catered to isn't a good thing, are there things for him to do? Does he have a bike or something to ride? Is it safe to do so in your location? I don't agree with someone being on electronics constantly but are you surprised a 12 year old visiting for a month is glued to electronics?
I was deployed with a bunch of youngsters to a location with no cell service. You'd 've thought they were going to die. A couple of days into our 2wks they were interacting, communicating, acting as a team. They had a blast. Probably one of the best things that could've happened to them.
This is no doubt opening a can of worms, but I would suspect chronic electronics use in infancy/toddlerhood before vaccines re: the increase in childhood autism.
I was deployed with a bunch of youngsters to a location with no cell service. You'd 've thought they were going to die. A couple of days into our 2wks they were interacting, communicating, acting as a team. They had a blast. Probably one of the best things that could've happened to them.
You know you can tell kids what to do, right?
I'm surprised they still possessed the skills to interact!
Who the hell visits for a month? Do you have other activities available? While I also think being constantly catered to isn't a good thing, are there things for him to do? Does he have a bike or something to ride? Is it safe to do so in your location? I don't agree with someone being on electronics constantly but are you surprised a 12 year old visiting for a month is glued to electronics?
Oh yes he has a bike & its safe but no interest in it. We have a park too nearby
Why wouldnt he want to see his dad for as long as possible? Not that strange. He doesnt go to camp so he has the time & my husband wanted him here for that amount of time also … what father wouldnt?
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This is no doubt opening a can of worms, but I would suspect chronic electronics use in infancy/toddlerhood before vaccines re: the increase in childhood autism.
I wouldn’t be surprised. And my husband does believe kiddo is on the spectrum
Im curious to see some of these children when they enter the workforce in a decade
I was deployed with a bunch of youngsters to a location with no cell service. You'd 've thought they were going to die. A couple of days into our 2wks they were interacting, communicating, acting as a team. They had a blast. Probably one of the best things that could've happened to them.
You know you can tell kids what to do, right?
Understand, but a) he’s not my kid so im not gonna force him to do something he doesnt want to do. If my husband chooses to, thats his choice & b) for the short amount of time he’s here, my husband wants him to have fun & happy times, not memories of doing something he doesnt like to do. He is a good kid & not gonna like a throw a tantrum or anything but there has def in the past been times he was unhappy & my husband doesnt want such a short time with his dad to be something the kid didnt enjoy.
My husband does talk to his son about the games & tries to get himself interested in what his son plays so they can talk about it. Sometimes they play together & they have a lot of fun.
Like I said, hubby wants to focus on the happy times & if gaming makes kiddo happy then thats what my husband will do.
We have taken him places in the past.
Went fishing & kiddo was upset he didnt catch a fish.
Went to the beach but kiddo doesnt like the water, does enjoy the sand but got bored pretty quickly of it.
He is very happy, smiling & laughing when he plays his games. My husband would rather just see him happy @ the end of the day. I just worry for the future bc I know it’s hard to break those habits. The kids start young & they become addicted to the games, enter the real world & lack social skills.
Oh yes he has a bike & its safe but no interest in it. We have a park too nearby
Why wouldnt he want to see his dad for as long as possible? Not that strange. He doesnt go to camp so he has the time & my husband wanted him here for that amount of time also … what father wouldnt?
Somehow I missed the stepson part. Sorry.
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Originally Posted by otterhere
This is no doubt opening a can of worms, but I would suspect chronic electronics use in infancy/toddlerhood before vaccines re: the increase in childhood autism.
What the hell are you talking about?
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