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Recently at my son's 21st birthday he was receiving compliments on his new suit, with numerous people commenting to him and me how handsome he looked.
You know the usual kind of comments about him "getting all the girls" in college etc (and he was lapping it up!)
I even chimed in myself, proudly, saying something like "If I wasn't your mother", making him blush a little
but in a harmless way.
It was just a throwaway remark, meant in a light hearted way and I'm pretty sure I'm not the first mom to say it jokingly. It's a thing right?
Well it was overheard by another lady who gave me a very strange look but I think she took it a bit too literally!
Is that not a socially acceptable thing for a mother to joke around with any more?
Surely lots of women shower their sons with compliments, telling them they are handsome, building their confidence etc with some harmless Mom flirting?
Recently at my son's 21st birthday he was receiving compliments on his new suit, with numerous people commenting to him and me how handsome he looked.
You know the usual kind of comments about him "getting all the girls" in college etc (and he was lapping it up!)
I even chimed in myself, proudly, saying something like "If I wasn't your mother", making him blush a little
but in a harmless way.
It was just a throwaway remark, meant in a light hearted way and I'm pretty sure I'm not the first mom to say it jokingly. It's a thing right?
Well it was overheard by another lady who gave me a very strange look but I think she took it a bit too literally!
Is that not a socially acceptable thing for a mother to joke around with any more?
Surely lots of women shower their sons with compliments, telling them they are handsome, building their confidence etc with some harmless Mom flirting?
There is a huge, wide gulf between praising someone's looks and implying that you'd want to have sex with them, which is what "If I wasn't your parent" does in this context.
Eww.
Last edited by Archaic; 02-03-2022 at 08:57 AM..
Reason: Clarification
I'm thinking that maybe what came out of your mouth was just you getting kind of carried away.
There really is no way to defend implying you want to have sex with your son...so, if I were you, I'd just stop, and acknowledge it all came out weird.
And no, mom flirting (a term I never heard before) isn't normal.
Haha, no, it's gross. Don't say that. You embarrass yourself and your son.
Finally, an easy answer! No, it's not socially acceptable.
1. The phrase "If I wasn't your mother..." can be completed by:
A) I wouldn't be bailing you out of jail.
B) I would wring your little neck!
C) I wouldn't be here.
D) I'd rock your world.
E) All of the above except D.
What if you had a 21 yr old attractive daughter and your husband said that in the same type of venue?
Edit: You are sorry you asked because you did not get the answer you were wanting? And we are all so stupid to think it is not a regular thing for parents to say that about their kids?
Ok let's close it on that polite note.
I'm sorry I asked!
Sorry you asked, but not sorry you said it?
No, it was an inappropriate thing to say. And it embarrassed your son. Why would you want to embarrass your son? Not cool, mom.
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