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Is your child handicapped?is he/she doing well in grades?
I have a niece who did well until everyone reaches puberty,then there is petty jealousy,gossips-what does your father do for a living>what kind of house do you live in>where did you buy your designer clothese? .
I believe OP is the child in question and deeply resents his parents trying to extricate him from his room when he was overindulging in online activities and being a basic lump.
If your child had no friends, how would that make you feel?
My parents never seemed to mind. Or notice.
Toys were my best friends. What can I say? I prefered to groom my imagination playing with toys in my room, to playing with other kids out in the street.
The downside is that I lacked social development all my life. I never learned to read people's body language and am a terrible judge of character. I think it is important for young children to interract and learn social development. No bid deal, but I never did that and missed out on key learning necessary to interact in society.
Don't get me wrong. I am nice and have always played nice with others. I like most people and am easy going. I was always the guy at work picked to work with all of the insufferable asses nobody else at work would deal with.
My lack of social development didn't cause me to be an anti-social monster as much as I think it made me too naive and too trusting. It has definitely made my life difficult at times as I can set myself up by being too trusting. Unfortunately this means, if you breach my trust one single time, I am completely done with you. Once burned, I don't give 2nd chances. People with superior social development from a young age than me, probably are better than me at negotiating relationships on every level from platonic to professional to intimate.
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
Is he an only child? My mother was, so she developed a personality and had friends, so she'd have someone to play with. She kept them thru high school, so always had friends to share with.
I'd feel bad about my child, if he had no friends. Because something's wrong. There's a chance he's being bullied and will never admit it because it's embarrassing to admit that.
I'd try to get him involved in group or extracurricular activities. Sports, debate, 4-H, whatever his interests are and that he may be good at. Band would be okay, but I was in band, so I know the kids don't necessarily become friends because they are playing music and not interacting among themselves.
I'd start him on these things gradually, since it'll be a change for him.
If things don't change, I'd consider therapy, but only as a last resort. Just knowing you think he needs therapy will have an effect on him. But a therapist may be able to find out what he won't tell you.
You could also speak to a couple of his teachers to see if he interacts with the other kids in class, participates in class, acts normally.
Is he an only child? My mother was, so she developed a personality and had friends, so she'd have someone to play with. She kept them thru high school, so always had friends to share with.
I'd feel bad about my child, if he had no friends. Because something's wrong. There's a chance he's being bullied and will never admit it because it's embarrassing to admit that.
I'd try to get him involved in group or extracurricular activities. Sports, debate, 4-H, whatever his interests are and that he may be good at. Band would be okay, but I was in band, so I know the kids don't necessarily become friends because they are playing music and not interacting among themselves.
I'd start him on these things gradually, since it'll be a change for him.
If things don't change, I'd consider therapy, but only as a last resort. Just knowing you think he needs therapy will have an effect on him. But a therapist may be able to find out what he won't tell you.
You could also speak to a couple of his teachers to see if he interacts with the other kids in class, participates in class, acts normally.
Toys were my best friends. What can I say? I prefered to groom my imagination playing with toys in my room, to playing with other kids out in the street.
The downside is that I lacked social development all my life. I never learned to read people's body language and am a terrible judge of character.
So you were not exposed to any other people or relationships? No parents, siblings, schoolmates, relatives, neighbors etc. to model social interactions? You never attended preschool or K-12?
Babies typically learn facial expressions and body language by age 8-10 months through interaction with parents/caregivers. Did you not have that either?
If you were played with, cared for, etc. with normal parenting experiences as a baby and small child, you should have picked up those skills at the same time as your peers. If not there may be neurological differences. Were you ever screened for autism?
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
First, ask them how they feel. And then depending on their age, first ask their teacher if they have friends in school. They may very well be an introvert or not at that age yet where they feel the need to see their friends outside of school. If the child was like a complete hermit though and never made any inclination that they needed friends at all, then I would be concerned..
Also, get them involved in SOMETHING..doesn't have to be sports..
If my child weren't lonely and okay with it, then I'd be okay with it. But I'd be concerned still because I don't know if that could lead to problems later down like it for me.
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