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I have a 4 and 6 year old who have started competing in everything. I’ve finally figured out how to turn it to my advantage. Yesterday one of them offered me to some candy obtained from the 4th of July Parade. The other one then had to also offer me some candy. That forced the first one to offer me TWO pieces. They then got into a bidding war. It was great. I finally put an end to it and accepted two pieces from each of them. But I bet I could have taken it all if I had wanted to.
Hmm, wonder if you could wind up honing that advantage into foot massages, backscratchings, or housework or anything!
You gave me a nice laugh!
Actually I have it working in the garden. One helps me pull the weeds, and the other helps me pick the plants. I just set it up so each job was the "special" job for one of them.
Yes, I can get my oldest (5) to do just about anything if I turn it into a competition ("I bet you can't pick up all your toys by the time I'm done singing the ABCs...") I haven't had the luck with candy, yet! Although up until now, he has been a little absentminded about exactly how much candy he has; I would take a few pieces out everyday, so that he would end up eating less overall (okay, and so some of those went into my mouth too).
Hmm, wonder if you could wind up honing that advantage into foot massages, backscratchings, or housework or anything!
You gave me a nice laugh!
My kids (4 and 5) DO fight over who gets to massage mommy's head and rub lotion on her legs and feet . Generally we resolve the lotion issue by giving one child my right leg and the other my left leg. The head massage issue isn't so easily solved. With that usually they take turns, but they're always trying to get their turn in !! It's funny what a little rivalry and competition will do!
i bet that would work great for grades and sports!!!!
Our girls were extremely competitive growing up, and YOU BET that worked! While the older one really doesn't care that much anymore, our younger daughter still asks on occasion what everyone's GPA is, including one son who is in college! IT'S GREAT!!!!
I have a 4 and 6 year old who have started competing in everything. I’ve finally figured out how to turn it to my advantage. Yesterday one of them offered me to some candy obtained from the 4th of July Parade. The other one then had to also offer me some candy. That forced the first one to offer me TWO pieces. They then got into a bidding war. It was great. I finally put an end to it and accepted two pieces from each of them. But I bet I could have taken it all if I had wanted to.
Ummm....sounds kind of manipulative to me. So, are you saying that you'll spend the rest of your lives stoking this rivalry between your children for their mother's attention and love?
Ummm....sounds kind of manipulative to me. So, are you saying that you'll spend the rest of your lives stoking this rivalry between your children for their mother's attention and love?
My exact thoughts! Though it can be good for a child to be competitive, too much competition can be very unhealthy for them in the long run! Be careful what you teach your children, it may backfire one day! I know from experience what making everything into a competition can become if you let it dominate the scene.
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. Generally we resolve the lotion issue by giving one child my right leg and the other my left leg. The head massage issue isn't so easily solved. With that usually they take turns, but they're always trying to get their turn in 
