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This has been happening to my hubby and I recently. We've been making an effort to widen our circle of friends this summer. We have two couples that we really like - but we can't stand the kids. We have 4 children - 17 down to six and they are not angels by any means - but they do not embarrass us when we go places and people seem to like them. I realize every child has his/her moments and you can't base an opinion on one time - but what do you do when you like hanging with the adults - but the kids are awful? Or the kids are running wild and the parents just smile and watch?
We've tried the adults only angle - but not everyone can do that. Does this happen to anyone else?
What I've learned is that it's tough to match up perfectly with other complete families. It's either an inconvenient or intolerable relationship. You will either be running in different directions with your lives to the point that it's not worth the effort or either the adults or the children won't get along.
It was so much easier to make friends as a single guy before I got married. LOL
Yep, and it is such a sticky mess to be in! I have a six children and I have to say, theya re really good kids. They are not perfect by any means but they are polite, get along well with adults and other children. I have a good friend who has raised a child who is constantly in front of the tv playing games or watching tv. He is also a whiner. Not only do we as parents cringe at the thought of seeing this child, my children do too.
Yep, and it is such a sticky mess to be in! I have a six children and I have to say, theya re really good kids. They are not perfect by any means but they are polite, get along well with adults and other children. I have a good friend who has raised a child who is constantly in front of the tv playing games or watching tv. He is also a whiner. Not only do we as parents cringe at the thought of seeing this child, my children do too.
I say just be lucky to have a few families that mesh well. I only have ONE friend with kids whom get along with my kids perfectly...So we just see them the MOST!!
So true! We have a ton of friends that their kids drive me nuts! But the good thing is, all the kids get along, and that is what matters. It is impossible to match that many personalities together.
This makes me think of one couple I'm friends with. Their kids are actually distructive. They are fighting (actually punching, ect) with eachother constantly, and every time they come over they break something. These aren't little kids either! They're in middle school!!! My kids don't like the kids, either. So I just see the parents when we can get together without kids, or try to!!
This has been happening to my hubby and I recently. We've been making an effort to widen our circle of friends this summer. We have two couples that we really like - but we can't stand the kids. We have 4 children - 17 down to six and they are not angels by any means - but they do not embarrass us when we go places and people seem to like them. I realize every child has his/her moments and you can't base an opinion on one time - but what do you do when you like hanging with the adults - but the kids are awful? Or the kids are running wild and the parents just smile and watch?
We've tried the adults only angle - but not everyone can do that. Does this happen to anyone else?
I see where you are coming from but then again I also see it as sort of condescending to the adults you consider your friends.
If they are truly your friends, you take the good with the bad.
Your point is very valid. At the same time, the point is a little immature.
Instead of finding fault, maybe just be grateful you have what you have in your children. What if you were in their boat & this was being written about your kids?
As for parents that just sit there while their children are monsters & do nothing about it...if that's the case, that says something about them & thus I would question the purpose of the friendship.
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