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The past few posts made me shake my head. I'm not trying to make excuses, especially because I live in a moderate climate. My daughter was renowned wherever we went last year because she wore a bathing suit and flip flops EVERY day. When it was very cool out, I convinced her to put a sweater or jacket over the bathing suit but that is what she wore EVERY day. She has now outgrown this phase and has moved onto dresses and princess crowns. I was also the mom who always had a baby without socks. By the time we got to where we were going, she had removed her socks and had thrown them somewhere in the car. I usually tried to keep an extra on hand but that didn't always happen. Yes, I am the woman who occasionally has a screaming (and I mean at the top of her lungs) child when she is out running errands or other stuff. I could use the excuse that I have too many kids but 90% of the time, they are well-behaved and attentive. Forgive me the 10% when I am having an off day and my children are not acting perfect when out in public.
As for behaving in public, I am not talking about baby's. I am talking about kid's that are old enough to know better.
Okie, I really want to tell you, because I see it consistently in like every post you make. Please don't take this personally. The plural of baby is babies. The plural of kid is kids. Apostrophes imply possession (or contractions), not plurality.
Please resume your regularly scheduled programming.
Okie, I really want to tell you, because I see it consistently in like every post you make. Please don't take this personally. The plural of baby is babies. The plural of kid is kids. Apostrophes imply possession (or contractions), not plurality.
Please resume your regularly scheduled programming.
Yes, I am the woman who occasionally has a screaming (and I mean at the top of her lungs) child when she is out running errands or other stuff. I could use the excuse that I have too many kids but 90% of the time, they are well-behaved and attentive. Forgive me the 10% when I am having an off day and my children are not acting perfect when out in public.
We can't keep them from screaming in the first place - but we CAN take screaming child out of the public experience.
Half the time I think they act up just because they KNOW that the parent will put up with in public (out of haste and embarrasment) 10 times more than would be tolerated at home.
If you look up manipulative in the dictionary I think you will see a picture of a 3 year old on a sugar buzz
I really don't expect perfection - just consideration
We can't keep them from screaming in the first place - but we CAN take screaming child out of the public experience.
Half the time I think they act up just because they KNOW that the parent will put up with in public (out of haste and embarrasment) 10 times more than would be tolerated at home.
If you look up manipulative in the dictionary I think you will see a picture of a 3 year old on a sugar buzz
I really don't expect perfection - just consideration
I actually disagree-- I think it is just the opposite. If you let your child bully YOU by leaving everytime he acts up, he learns that all I have to do if I don't want to be here is scream and Mommy will run for the door. It is just giving in. Kids aren't stupid and can be very manipulative. There are times that my sons are at hteir wits ends and crying to leave, but I have stuff that I need to get done. They just have to suck it up. If I left everytime they acted up because I was afraid of what other patrons thought, I'd never be able to leave the house.
I actually disagree-- I think it is just the opposite. If you let your child bully YOU by leaving everytime he acts up, he learns that all I have to do if I don't want to be here is scream and Mommy will run for the door. It is just giving in. Kids aren't stupid and can be very manipulative. There are times that my sons are at hteir wits ends and crying to leave, but I have stuff that I need to get done. They just have to suck it up. If I left everytime they acted up because I was afraid of what other patrons thought, I'd never be able to leave the house.
But why do "I" have to suck it up? I don't think you have to leave permanently - take them outside - explain they are being rude - and then return to your task at hand when they calm down or are distracted from the tantrum.
But why do "I" have to suck it up? I don't think you have to leave permanently - take them outside - explain they are being rude - and then return to your task at hand when they calm down or are distracted from the tantrum.
Because the "Me Generation" is raising children. It's not about you it's all about them
It only takes once or twice of correcting this behavior (however you see fit) and usually it solves the problem. I only remember a few times that my kids threw fits in a store or resturant. I told them what would happen if they didn't stop, and I followed through! After that, the "Look" would work.
I didn't just leave a store/resturant when they acted up. I would take them to the bathroom and have a little talk with them, or sometimes a little swat on the bottom if the behavior was really bad. Then we would go back and finish what we were doing. If you leave every time they act up you will never get anything done, and they'll know they only need to misbehave and they can leave!
It IS possible to go out without the kids acting like animals! You just have to be firm and consistant! Be the parent.
BTW, parents need to remember not to give in or buy kids something every time you go out! You're setting yourself up for problems if you start doing that. Let them know from a young age that you expect them to behave, you know they can behave, and if they don't there will be consequences!
I actually disagree-- I think it is just the opposite. If you let your child bully YOU by leaving everytime he acts up, he learns that all I have to do if I don't want to be here is scream and Mommy will run for the door. It is just giving in. Kids aren't stupid and can be very manipulative. There are times that my sons are at hteir wits ends and crying to leave, but I have stuff that I need to get done. They just have to suck it up. If I left everytime they acted up because I was afraid of what other patrons thought, I'd never be able to leave the house.
So nice that you feel that you're more important than everyone else.
So kind that you want everyone else to put up with the bad behavior of your kids.
Why do I have to suffer for your kids bad behavior?
But why do "I" have to suck it up? I don't think you have to leave permanently - take them outside - explain they are being rude - and then return to your task at hand when they calm down or are distracted from the tantrum.
But you could also say, why is it all about YOU?
Who promised you a life free of public annoyances?
As the parents like to say, life ain't fair.
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