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View Poll Results: Hnads-off or Hands-on?
Hands-on 17 68.00%
Hands-off 8 32.00%
Voters: 25. You may not vote on this poll

 
 
Old 10-09-2008, 10:32 AM
 
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You are completely disregarding the middle ground. There is no balance if you are one extreme or the other. There's a lot of room between the two.
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Old 10-09-2008, 10:37 AM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Do you like fancy yourself a hands-on or hands-off parent?

Do you think you should get involved into every aspect of your child's school life, know all assignments, check all homework, volunteer for the sake of knowing what's going on with your child? Do you feel that it's your responsibility to think about your child's future and guide him/her there?
Yes, I am extremely hands on. I do all of those things you mention.


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Not to say that we all should divorce or take a job to be away for months, but. I personally feel that I can't or don't want to be the over-bearing parent, look after every step of my children. I think there should be a buffer zone where they should make their own decisions - of being on time, of doing homework, of figuring what they want to be
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I understand what you are saying, but I also believe that in these times, and in my family's distinct circumstances, I would be remiss and derelict as a parent to not be cognizant of EVERYTHING going on in the lives of my children. As far as them figuring out what they want to be, that is up to them.
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Old 10-09-2008, 12:43 PM
 
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Please, please be hands-off when they get to college!
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Old 10-09-2008, 02:42 PM
 
Location: S. New Hampshire
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Well, for now we are hands on because our kids are still very young (3 and 16 mo). But even now there are situations where we are starting to be a little hands off. Meaning, as long as we know they are not in imminent danger, we let them fall, bump their heads, get a cut on their knee, etc.

To the OP I would say the two examples you gave are exemplary; however IMO it could have just as easily gone the other way. I think it says more about the kids than the parenting.
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Old 10-16-2008, 09:51 AM
 
Location: St. Louis Metro East
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I think it says more about the kids than the parenting.
This is too true. I was much more hands-on with my boys than I needed to be with my girl... It all depends on the child and the circumstances.

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