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Just wondering how any of you have, or would, or should relate to a pre-pubescent boy who begins to exhibit cross-dressing. A little boy who likes to dress up in mommy's clothes, or has an unusual attration to tactile stimulation from women's clothing.
If he were my child, I would immediately be concerned he was trangender. I would watch him carefully to see what gender he was emotionally and psychologically. If he insisted he was a girl, without a doubt, I would treat him as a girl and let him dress as a girl and get him started on estrogens before puberty so he did not morph into a man. I'd then help him get a sex change operation at age 18 or so.
For those who are upset by what I'm saying, please take a moment to watch this excellent 20/20 program on transgender children with Barbara Walters:
Woof, I believe the number of transgenered children is extremely tiny compared to the number who carry a latent or overt tendency toward crossdressing. Furthermore, there is a wide body of opinion that cross-dressing males are no more likely to be homosexual than the general population. Thirdly, from what I have read, this tendency never goes away and more harm can be done by efforts to put shame or guilt on it.
The reason I raised this is because everything I have read or hard from professionals suggests that there is a huge mythology built up around this behavior. I have even heard statistics from the women's clothing industry that about 10% or more of all women's intimate wear is sold to and/or worm by men.
How old is the boy? My son liked to wear my "fancy" shoes when he was 3 or 4, and sometimes he wore girly scrunchies in his hair when it was long enough. At nearly 8, he was horrified the other day when I grabbed a pair of $1 black stretch gloves as an extra pair of gloves for him out of the girls section at walmart. I pointed out that they were exactly the same as the ones that they sold in the boys section, only they did not come with a hat and cost $4, but he kept insisting that he could not possibly wear something from the girl section. I bought them anyway and figure that if he loses his gloves, he will probably choose warmth over such vanity, LOL.
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. Young children copy what they see each day, and if your son is spending most of his time with mommy, it's natural that he'll want to copy her. It's really not a reason to launch a psychological evaluation or anything like that.
If we're talking about a 8, 9, 10 year old, though, then maybe there is a deeper issue... or maybe he just isn't "socialized" to follow the crowd in matters of fashion.
Woof, I believe the number of transgenered children is extremely tiny compared to the number who carry a latent or overt tendency toward crossdressing. Furthermore, there is a wide body of opinion that cross-dressing males are no more likely to be homosexual than the general population. Thirdly, from what I have read, this tendency never goes away and more harm can be done by efforts to put shame or guilt on it.
The reason I raised this is because everything I have read or hard from professionals suggests that there is a huge mythology built up around this behavior. I have even heard statistics from the women's clothing industry that about 10% or more of all women's intimate wear is sold to and/or worm by men.
Well, maybe he'll become the next big fashion designer. Who knows? I guess we could go to Salvation Army and pick him out some nice skirts.
I think what the OP is saying is that lots of men like to play dress up. Even from childhood they love the feel and touch of women's clothing. They dream of wearing something silky with lace on it.
You have to admit, it is so much more interesting being a woman. We get to live in this wonderful world of nice clothing and girly stuff. Some men want that, too. Thus, as wives, some of us find our husbands wearing our clothes when we are not around. This behavior can start as early as childhood.
I would take the child to see a psychologist and get their professional opinion.
This is what my initial step would be. I would certainly respect my child's feelings and would want to know how to handle this delicate situation. I am all for letting kids be who they want to be but I certainly would not be pumping hormones into his little body until we were for sure that is what he wants.
I think what the OP is saying is that lots of men like to play dress up. Even from childhood they love the feel and touch of women's clothing. They dream of wearing something silky with lace on it.
You have to admit, it is so much more interesting being a woman. We get to live in this wonderful world of nice clothing and girly stuff. Some men want that, too. Thus, as wives, some of us find our husbands wearing our clothes when we are not around. This behavior can start as early as childhood.
I dunno about all this, they do make mens clothing with silk, which is about as nice as it gets. Silk pj's and sometimes boxers are the ****, but I won't be trying on my girlfriends teddy anytime soon. Oh and silk bedding is awesome except for the pillows flying off the bed lol. I think there is something else going on there, especially in todays world where it's ok for men to wear stuff that would be considered girly in the past. It's one thing for boys under 5 or 6, but older than that I'd look into what's causing the behavior.
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, but I won't be trying on my girlfriends teddy anytime soon. Oh and silk bedding is awesome except for the pillows flying off the bed lol. I think there is something else going on there, especially in todays world where it's ok for men to wear stuff that would be considered girly in the past. It's one thing for boys under 5 or 6, but older than that I'd look into what's causing the behavior.
