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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I don't know if anyone has noticed how flakey and dramatic teen age girls act but I'm trying to remember when I came out of my flakey little drama queen phase. I'm enduring a nieces phase now and hers is scarier than mine ever was. Give me some hope, please!
I got married at the age of 17 - something my family was raised to do - and I think my EX husband would tell you I did not 'grow up' until the birth of our first child when I was 19.
I was, however, not nearly as bad as girls are these days - my parents will agree with that, as we have had this conversation- so it was not a huge deal to grow out of it.
I, too, am having trouble figuring out what all the drama is about. My dd in-law and dd in-law to be are much the same. Are they just so spoiled, or has the media turned them into what they are? I tend to lean toward the media, as people such as Paris Hilton and Britney Spears set examples which are horrible, yet teens find irresistable.
It just seems so much worse than it was even 10 years ago, let alone when I was a teen. I remember my meltdowns being over boys rather than things - now it seems like the scales are even, as they are trying to keep up with the teen 'Joneses', while being so into EVERY persons business around them, to the point of making it their life as well.
I so wish these young girls would realize a bling bling phone and the best purse money can buy doesn't give them character - it makes them like every body else. I see no compassion, only me, me, me, and sobbing on the bed as though their life is over if so and so upsets their delicate balance.
As if the hormonal changes in their bodies are not enough at this tender age, maybe all the extra hormones in our food supply have gone straight to the personality gene! lol!
Anyway...
I feel for you, but I do have a few suggestions.
Try 'forcing' them to volunteer somewhere this Christmas at a soup kitchen, or a community food and toy drive. Let them see how the 'real' world is - give them a dose of reality. I say 'force', as they will balk I am sure, but make it a family affair so they have to go.
For most,too, I see this phase pass as they grown up and the world smacks them in the face. WHEN/IF mommy and daddy cut off their money supply and they have to start paying their own way, things change - unless they discover credit cards as many do and then another problem begins.
I honestly do not think there is a magic age - it's more about life circumstance and what parents can do to show them the other side of the street. At some point in their young lives, something has to touch their heart to make them change. If not, the behaviour continues and you end up with 60 somethings (MY mother), who drive the best, wear the best, and associate with who they think is only the best (drives my dad nuts). I'm surprised I escaped it when I did!
Agreed. College (or moving out somewhere among new people) has given exposure to people who were not brought up with similar values and ethics. Was interesting at first but became old fairly quickly. Also, because our dd is not wholly parent-financed she is much more aware of budgets and value of her dollar than her friends whose parent just send money when asked. Amazing how much maturity goes with that!
High school is one huge festival of drama....just warning you!
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That's three more years of misery. 
